Is he for real?

Question

Am 25 years old, I broke up with my boyfriend in Sep. 2005. We met in May 1999 and started living together June 2000 thru Aug 2005. I am emotionally scared. I broke up with him because he was cheating, there was a lot of stressed and we both didn't handle it right. Long story short, he wants me back. But now all he talks about his marriage and most especially a kid. My co-worker said, its normal for 31 yr male to talk like that; I said he's faking and just want me back and those are his best lines. And a cheat will always be a cheat. But keep in mind he never use to talked about marriage nor kids. Is he sincere about his apologizes? Is my co-work right? But I thought women are the ones who normally conversate about marriage and family?

Answer 1

No, he is definitely not for real.

If he only had eyes for you, he wouldn't have cheated in the first place.

He can be forgiven, but he can never be trusted again. Trust me on this, he will take your heart and break it into a million billion to infinity pieces.

He obviously does not know the meaning of true love, and you certainly deserve a whole lot better.

Ask yourself these questions:
-: Does he care for you as much as you obviously care about him?
-: If you decide to let him back into your life, and he does cheat again (and he most certainly will), how will this adversely affect you pshcologically and emotionally?
-: Is he worth having you heart torn apart?
-: considering his projected promiscuous path, will he inevitably, give you a sexually transmitted desease?

Answer 2

He is trying to ge his hook back into you with those lines. You are around the age when women start to tink of having a family and getting married. Honey, those are just lines to trap you again. If he really loves you, make him work for it. Don't fall victim to him so easily. Act like you don't want him or need him, (you really don't), and keep your distance for a few months and see what happens. If he cheated once on you, chances are he will do it again since he kinda got away with it the first time. This is why you should not take him back right now.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I was in a relationship scenario very similar to yours. I met my boyfriend in 1992. We dated for ten years, when I found out that I was the other woman. Shocked, I called it quits. I was moving on with my life when he called in 2004 stating how much he wanted me back, he also expressed his desire for marriage. Still in love with him, I accepted him back in my life, got married and eventually experienced more pain and humiliation when I came home to an empty house less than three months after our marriage. Long story short, please don't allow your emotions to conceal the truth. Regardless of how sincere he appears to be, use your better judgment in this situation. You can forgive him without forgetting what he is capable of. Don't forget how miserable you felt when you realized that he had betrayed you with some other woman. Why? Because he has the potential to do the same thing again. Good Luck!

Answer 4

The older the guy gets the more mature (we hope) my b/f did all his hard parties between the ages of 14 and 20 he's 23 know and he wants to settle down already. So it just depends on the guy. Your co-workers are probably right. Talk it through with him and get all those feeling out in the open before you jump into a relationship again.

Answer 5

He could be telling you that because he really wants marriage and kids now or he's telling you that so you'll take him back. Its been a while since you broke up, your only 25, dont go back with him. You can find better.

Answer 6

Sorry to but he is cheating you if really loves you he would never let the breakup situation to come. Gals are very innocent in this matter they thought that he is very immotional and honest but things go other way round.You will get much better than this person.All the best.

Answer 7

to be honest with you , my opinion is that he thought of marriage and a family before and got scared and wanted to see what was out there before he made that commitment and i think he found out that you are that special someone... ask him why he cheated??? see if he comes up with the same answer,,, wish you all the best.. oh yeah,, follow your heart not your co workers

Answer 8

No, men will bring up that topic too, but I'm with you on this one. I think he's telling you what you want to hear. If you don't want anymore emotional scars, you need to stand up for yourself and tell him, "too little, too late." Because what do you think he's going to do once that kid pops out? He's going to go cheat again. Once a cheat, always a cheat.

Answer 9

I noticed you use the name "justme", well that's what you should be thinking about. Ask yourself, how many other times has he cheated on you and how long do you want to be a door mat ??? You are being smothered by a gilt trip on his part by bring up marriage and kids. Don't fall for it. It's time for you to move on and let him deal with what he lost !!!!

Answer 10

okay, if you take him back, can you without a single doubt trust him, no, so do not take him back, otherwise he will cheat again, love was never the issue, only a family of emptiness and future lonliness for you and children, so if he really loved you he would not have left the first time, or cheated the first time, move on, love rocks!