my man of eight months is great.. which everyone has their downfalls but he has brought so much happiness into my life that i haven't since in eight years.. he has been hurt by his ex wife and ex financee.... which he planned on marrying her after six months of them being together but they both cheated on him and treated him like s@#$ !!!! but he will talk about other women being pretty and so forth but he told me he has been burnt before that he was going to be careful this time but i want him to open up and tell me how he feels about me ,,HELP!! Thanks ahead for all your comments
2006-06-23 08:58:38 · 11 answers · asked by babygirl29 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I agree with those who say dont pressure him. He has a rocky past with women. Dont be like them. If you push, you wont get a sincere answer. Give him time to sort out his feelings for you, then they will be clear and honest. Relationships are sometimes best built when taken slow and at each persons own pace. Let it grow on its own.
2006-06-23 09:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyes 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My best advice to you is that you should ask him straight up... Communication is always the key to a good relationship, whether it is romantic or just a friendship, and if he doesn't open up to you about how he feels maybe he is afraid you'll hurt him or maybe he just doesn't feel for you... The point is, don't assume, find out from him... Tell him that you want to know how he feels about you and tell him how you feel about him and why it's important that those feelings are shared...And in refrence to the... "he will talk about other women being pretty and so fourth but he told me he has been burnt before..." What does being pretty have to do about feelings for you? Or are you just wanting him to compliment you? Because that's a whole different situation.... Hope this helped a little.
2006-06-23 09:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by WoWChick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babygirl, I was so much in love with a guy I met who called me his babygirl...we loved each other very much...he had some dark issues that I didn't find out about until later..he keeps calling me and hanging up it's hard to let go of someone you love.he never opened up to me either...that's not a good sign. Either he should be able to talk about his feelings openly like a mature adult or something isn't quite right that he isn't putting on the table...be careful of guys who don't express their feelings "at all" thats not good. If he's able to genuinely talk to you it's a sign of maturity and a sign that he cares about how you are feeling...
and do you really know the whole story about the ex-wife and
ex-fiance? Do you know them? Or could he be lying to you?
P.s. hope this isn't same guy?? there's alot of similarities...
2006-06-24 09:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by ljean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never pressure a man into anything. He will take his time and tell you when he is ready. You may want to be subtle if you want to find out... next time he comments on another woman, just ask him how he feels about you. If he doesn't answer or changes the subject, let him answer in his own time. It may help if you break the ice first- tell hm how you feel about him and tell him what you like that he does or says to you, etc.
2006-06-23 09:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, if he doesn't talk much , then you'll have to ask him questions, it's that simple. Let him know before you ask the first question that you care & you will be very understanding. Whenever you share your deepest feelings & your partner understands & accepts you without passing judgement - that is what creats a stronger bond between you both...Good luck!
2006-06-23 09:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by Danica Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open up to him first - a little at a time - so he starts to trust you. Just make sure you turn off the TV so he listens. This is going to take a while, BTW.
2006-06-23 09:04:53 · answer #6 · answered by Android 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try sitting him down and having a heart to heart conversation. he might not be ready to tell you how he feels. but just let him know that it'll help u a lot, if you knew where he's coming from and just to be open and honest.
2006-06-23 09:01:35 · answer #7 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say you need to talk if he don't here you then when he ask whats wrong tell him or ask him too time whats wrond when he don't anser then say fine tell me when your ready don't push it you will only push him out the door every now and then ask whats wrong he come around
2006-06-23 09:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by tiffany b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him bout it. tell and remind him how much u luv him and care bout him and understand how hurtful his other women were. tell him u'd never do what they did to him and promise him how much he can trust u. then say how he can be open and talk bout anythin to u. then kiss him!
2006-06-23 09:02:35 · answer #9 · answered by hott dria chikk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't put the pressure on him, just leave him alone and he will tell you when he is ready
2006-06-23 09:01:14 · answer #10 · answered by grateful6979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋