It seems like a Gay relationship would be easier to maintain than a Hetero one?

Question

I think alot of straight people post questions on here seemingly dumb becasue it seems like your relationships would work out alot easier than ours. We all know women and men are fundamentally different. My friends parents have been married for 25 years and they still don't get why the opposite does what they do, they just accept it. With a gay couple it's like one of the fellas right, of course two guys are going to get along it's not hard to pick up on subtle hints or irratation because youre a guy or a girl in that situation. But heteros in relationships can easily get on two different planets and have major communication break downs. It seems like that just would't happen in a gay relationship becasue your the same sex same state of mind your on the same planet, you speak the same language. It took me years to learn how to be friends with a girl you can't treat them the way you treat guy friends. A relationship was a whole different ball game it takes even more learning.

I'm looking for some good honest educated answers I'm not bashing or anything negative. I'm not gay nor plan to be Just down to learn a little so respond away.

I'm not saying it is easier to maintian but I think thats why so many straight people post questions on here. Most just assume that it's easier, and they may be fustrated with the oppo sex so they come on here and bash you guys. I thought it was an easy realtionship for a while to but I tend to forget that Communication in history has been a Human error. I still wanted to see what you all would say.

Answer 1

I agree it may be easier in the sense of dominate and passive issues that men and women face. In as much; it can be equally challenging if not more worse because of cultural limitations. Gays generally don't show openly affection to each others as their counterparts. Gays, are not allowed to marry; which in itself can cause all sorts of family problems if the other becomes sick. Gays are not allowed as much as straights in regards to health benefits and insurance. Gays aren't afforded the same courtesy that heterosexual get on a daily bases. These facts commingled with the challenge people have in general relationships can make being in a gay relationship very hard.

Answer 2

Good question. You would think that. But, it is not the case all the time. They fail or burn out quicker. That's why the joke about relationships in "gay years". Men are men, whether we're gay or straight. Men are commonly not good communicators, prone to infidelity and masters of mixed signals. Imagine having two then. Can be challenging. But, you'd also have a great friend/buddy built in to go and do things with. Most every time would be "guys night out". Also, the "outness" of both partners makes a big difference. Having to hide all traces of the relationship at specific times for specific people/situations puts a real strain as well.

Answer 3

Relationship is about two individuals regardless of sexual orientation. There's always gonna be communication issue. Cause it all stems from personal background, individual growing up experience, education, social status, cultural differences , racial differences and religion differences. Sure on the outset Male and Female relationship has the obvious gender differences. Same sex relationship has the added social oppression = the love that dare not speak. you can't even openly flirt with the person without any repercussions. Society assume you are straight unless prove otherwise. I think politically and socially it has more of a negative impact on a same sex relationship than the gender politics of heterosexual relationships.

Answer 4

While I consider myself bi-sexual because I'm sexually attracted to both men and women, I've never had an "actual relationship" with another woman - simply because I don't think I could maintain a decent relationship. I don't 'get' most women. One would think that having a vagina myself would automatically give me the ability to decode those sexy female brains, but it doesn't. I'm just as confused and frustrated by most women as my male friends are.

So, I sit back and watch the pretty ladies, read my Playboy, and thank my lucky stars that I'm attracted to men too.


On a strictly serious level - I'm not sure that the differences between two people have as much to do with their sex as we assume. We all have pretty unique brain chemistry. I happen to think more like the men I know than the women I know, my ex-husband happens to think more like a typical woman than a typical man. Occasionally, beyond any gender lines, two people come together that truly click and understand one another. That's just damn magical, and very rare. Everyone else is left to muck it out as best they can... gay, straight, or bi. *shrugs*

Answer 5

I believe that any and all relationships involve work. Attraction, communication, connection,heart, LOVE, patience, stimulation and work. It takes all of these to make a relationship survive. I know for a fact that gay couples do indeed have the same issues that hetero couples do. Pardon my saying but your statement is a bit naive. Nothing in life is easy and we need to learn how to be a little more open and patient.

Answer 6

Om!!okay that seems weird,I don't know what a gay relationship is like because im not gay.But hetrosexual ones are hard because were different.And god made men and women different.But I guess being the same sex you understand each other more.But no matter how hard a hetrosexual relationship,im gonna stick to that because im straight and im not even close to going that way!!

Answer 7

A relationship needs work whether it is a relationship between hetrosexuals or gays.

It is just not the fundamental difference between men and women, but different people and that is why relationships are difficult to maintain.

You have learn to love and respect each other and still be yourself.

Answer 8

I can't answer your question, but I'm always glad of the opportunity to share more Coupling quotes:

"Wouldn't that be great, being a lesbian? You'd have all the advantages of being a man, but with less embarrassing genitals. Plus every time you have sex, there's four breasts: two guest breasts and two you can take home afterwards."

"I like films with lesbians in them cause it's nice to think there are attractive women out there who can't find a boyfriend."

Answer 9

Maybe the reason there are more hetero questions here is simply that there are more heteros out there?

I can't say I've noticed much difference between my gay friends and my hetero friends in this area!

Answer 10

It seems like that, but some gay men r more into just sex rather than a steady relationship.