Is this normal or I'm like this forever.
Note: I was molested when I was 7 so do think this is somewhat connected to my present felings?
2006-06-23 08:30:06 · 10 answers · asked by reuguss 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Man!your luck i did'nt loose my virginity till I was a sophmore in college.Anyway it might lead up to what happend in your past.But how can your a past affect you falling in love with the sme gender it's not normal,your gay! Hey I may be wrong because I can't read or see that in people.So I hope you got your answer,I just wanted my 2 points.
2006-06-23 09:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by Lanny 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off, as a survivor of molestation myself-i was 5 when it happened to me, i can tell you that it can confuse you in who you trust, especially since i was molested by a guy. it played hell with me when i was coming to terms with myself as a sexually active person, as well as when i was coming to terms with the fact that i'm gay. but i can also tell you that me being molested has nothing to do with the fact that i'm gay.
i have been in relationships with men, and with women, and i found that i was happier when i was with men. i can't say for you that you'd be happier with a man or a woman, the only person who can say that is you. but have you ever considered that you are bisexual? sex is like life, not everybody is one thing or the other-life isn't black or white for everybody. so live your life for you.
and as long as your sexual partners are around your same age, and you are using safe sex, and you feel mature about what you are doing, then rock on that you're having sex at 16!! you may look back when you're 25 and think it was a mistake-as many people do-i have yet to find anyone who does resent some decision they made, or at 25 you may look back and think-i had it going on back then!!
good luck to you
2006-06-30 10:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by Krazie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Molestation probably had nothing to do with your orientation. You may just be bisexual so don't worry it is not the end of the world. I was Raped as a 9 year old child by a group of teenage boys and for years I blamed the fact that I was a bisexual on that. Please don't fall into that trap enjoy your life and don't worry being bisexual is not a bad thing it is just something that is. Go to the g0ys.org website it may help you with any self esteem issues you may have about this situation.
2006-06-23 16:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often people think if your molested that you in turn will molest others or turn gay. Your sexual development might be dominated by past sexual encounters including the molestation. At your age its not very clear or set in concert what your orientation will be at this point. This guy you love may be a fling. You may not be gay and on the other hand you may not be heterosexual. Wait until you have determine solely in the years to come.
2006-06-23 16:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over your past. You are a cad for having sex with someone a) when you're 16 and b) when you're in love with someone else. Do I think this is "normal"? No. Are you like this forever? That is up to you. Do you like guys? If so, then yes, you're like "this". If not, then no, you're just a jackass. As for whether your past is connected to your present feelings, who knows and does it really matter? We ALL need to get over things that happened in the "past" and move on with our lives.
2006-06-23 16:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, being molested is a door opening to having those feelings. But you should pray. Go to church. Read your Bible; those feelings are the trick of the enemy. Your not like this forever. Pray and ask God to deliver you from those thoughts.
2006-06-23 16:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by Ashlay D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your having been molested quite obviously has nothing to do with this.
if you're in love with someone else and you're in a monogamous relationship with your girlfriend, you should probably decide who to be with. otherwise, what's the problem?
2006-06-23 15:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by alguien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're 16 you're not even going to know who you are for a while let alone how you are just try not to screw up you or anyone else too badly while you sort out all this.
and like what? lesbian, straight, bi or unfaithful?
2006-06-23 15:39:11 · answer #8 · answered by martroy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't care if u16 or 40,u should taste 1st before u make any decesion.u got lot of time in everthings.molest is bad for child mind.try to forget it.
2006-06-23 15:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by yokey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bi, and thats ok!
2006-06-23 21:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by munkypoo1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋