I have lived with a man now for over 6 years and everyone always askes when are we getting married.We are happy just the way we are.We live just like any married couple, we just haven't ever gotten married. Why is this a problem to other people if it's working for us?
2006-06-23 08:25:41 · 14 answers · asked by sweet75482 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was with my man for a little over 5 years before we got married, so I disagree with the person that said if you love each other you should be married all ready. Anyway, people are just dumb and think marriage and kids are the reason for life. Now that we're married (it's only been 2 weeks), the big question is when we're having kids, it never ends. People need to realize that not everyone wants the same things out of life. Just tell people you don't need a stupid piece of paper to prove your love. Your relationship has lasted longer than most marriages do. Just make sure you guys have things in order in case something happens to one of you. I know it sounds morbid, but it happened to a friend of mine when her bf died unexpectedly. She lost everything because it was all in his name and they weren't married so she had no claim to anything. Even the house that she had paid half the mortgage on for 10 years, she had no claim to it.
2006-06-23 08:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't know about other people, but it sure isn't a problem with me. I'm 42, still single, and back in the market, so to speak...and frankly I enjoy it. I don't cave to the so called "pressure to get married" and never have. If it happens, it happens. In the recent past my then-girlfriend and I lived together for about a year, and we had no problems with it; the breakup was totally unrelated to our living situation. If you are happy together that's all that matters. I wouldn't worry about it. If it works, then more power to you. Best wishes.
2006-06-23 08:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by answerman63 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because marriage shows commitment. As long as you're "just dating", people don't take you guys too seriously. After you've dated for a while, people assume that you'll go to the next level and get married. But as long as you're happy, that's all that matters. When people ask the annoying question of when you guys will get married...I'd just say "When people start minding their own business." lol
2006-06-23 08:30:36 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People cant mind their own business and they assume that getting married shows your ultimate commitment; it's bunch of bs. It's the strength and integrity within couples who manage to have lasting relationship(even longer than those who get married and divorced ) is what defines them as being "married". Or maybe couples get married so they don't have to answer that annoying marriage question ;) Who knows, as long as you're happy nothing else matters.
2006-06-23 09:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by chroniczen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the living in sin. I'm not the really ultra religious person or any thing. My teacher lived with his girl friend for over 10-years be for he got married. He called it his sin full ways. All so with marriage there is a finally about it. you a "stuck" with them for ever. legally you a screwed if you you are just living to gether the separation thing does not work as well. at least if you are supous to dived it in half.
2006-06-23 08:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by caitie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, most people who love eachother get married & don't wait 6 years to do so. People ask you because it is "normal," i guess. I say that if you are happy how you are now, stay that way. Some day you might just get married.
2006-06-23 08:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In fact by common law you are married being together for over 180 days and living together, also if you have children together who call you both mom or dad.
People always want to tell others what they think, just say it's none of their concern and for them to get out of your personal life.
2006-06-23 08:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
same boat. But the person always bugging us is his mother. Every time I see her she asks when are we getting married. We've been engaged for 1 year, and we are in no rush. It must drive her crazy, because she drives me crazy. I always say "ask your son". She doesnt like that. LOL
2006-06-23 08:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by sweetiepie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show your commitment to each other, quit being afraid of commiting to each other. Marriage is the ultimate commitment, this is a show of true love in my opinion.
2006-06-23 08:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So they can show you what love is about and you can be on your
own.Then when you r married and you r feeling down of your
marrage they would say, I told you so
2006-06-23 08:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋