Can Love take a break? If my gf of 7 years told me that she isn't sure about me right now what are my chances?
We have been together since HS im 24 she is 25. We spoke about marriage and life together we made promises to eachother within the past few months. Things are rocky now, she is in her 3rd year of med school and about to take the boards(huge test). it may just be stress, but if she doesn't come around soon i dont know how long i can wait. i am sure she is who i want to be with, why now? why is she confused? Its not cheating, we are honest with eachother. She loves me, but says she is not in love
2006-06-23 08:25:08 · 10 answers · asked by dave g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you best thing to do is to be with her and faithful. Don;'t take a break, just do more things with your friends. Don;t mess with other girls even if she says it is ok. I am sure she is stressed and the long relationship just might have her in this question stage. Stand by her and treat her like a queen...good luck
2006-06-23 08:37:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Take heed to what she is telling you. Do not let yourself love someone that will not return the love. True she maybe stressed but that could be as a result of her not knowing how to break things off with you. You have to look at the whole picture and sometimes that is hard to do when you are too involved in the situation itself. You have been together since HS and neither of you have really had a chance to experience life without each other to know if you can withstand being apart or together for that matter.
Love is a lot more than an emotion; it requires devotion to one's self first or foremost. If she is telling you that she is not in love with you; do not try to stay hoping things will change or just being around her will change her mind because she will only end up resenting you for trying to force to love you as she did before.
I truly feel like she is putting the distance between you because she loves you but at the same time she wants to experience life without the strings and she loves you enough to separate to sow her oats rather than cheat and deceive you. She is a geniune person with good intentions she is just not sure how to deal with it because she has known nothing other than loving you.
You and your girldfriend could just be at different places in your life and are growing apart. Generally there is not much you can do until she purposes in her heart that you are who she wants and she is willing to work things out. Do not pressure her into something that she is not ready for. Let her do whatever it is that she wants to do but also let her know that you will not wait for her to see if the grass is greener on the other side.
I wish you the best of luck with your relationship and pray that God intervenes to protect your caring and submissive heart
2006-06-23 16:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you've been dumped. She's just pulling this whole "break" thing so she can study for her test and not be bothered with you whineing for her to take you back. Also possibly so she can get laid once or twice for a sort of study break.
She'll dump you formally after the test.
2006-06-23 16:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by Not The Stig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Again asking the same question? The answer is the same:
She broke up with you, get over it and move on.
Seven years and no ring? Why did you expect, for her to wait forever? Obviously she has found something better to do with her time other that entretain your whinny, needy self. Smart girl, I may add.
Put yourself together and get real
2006-06-23 15:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be stressed or just sick! Are you every thing she really wants? Do you have everything REALLY in common? Ask yourself some questions because if she tells you she doesn't LOVE you..I'd be concerned! wait a minute__ you're a SCUM! ! I WOULDN'T BE WITH YOU EITHER. I DID LOOK AT PRIOR QUESTIONS.. You need to check yourself!.
2006-06-23 15:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by amylr620 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is probably stressed out right now n need time 2 strighten things out....but that hole i love you but am not in love wit u thing is scary..its kind of hard 2 explain but she might need some time 2 c where she wants 2 b...and c wat else is out there...she may not b ready 2 settle down right now even tho u's have talked about marriage n ur life 2gether...she could b scared...mayb she feels that she's missing out on sumthing.........i truely wish u the best
2006-06-23 15:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by madly in love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! If she's not in love with you anymore, than it's not going to work out. I was in a similiar situation, and I did the dumping. I wasn't in love with him anymore and there wasn't anything he could do to change that. Give her space, but think about moving on yourself.
2006-06-23 15:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I would say move on. You cant love someone and not be in love with them. I think it was just a nice way for her to say its over.
2006-06-23 15:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by rose_mc_mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried about your relationship with your girlfriend, when you want to pour milk on black girls (see his prior questions)
Hope she did find someone else
2006-06-23 15:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by honeybaby729 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude she is stressed, back off a bit.
2006-06-23 15:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by amy f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋