How do you tell a friend you know her boyfriend is cheating without losing her as a friend ?

Question

I have been best friends with this guy for almost 2 yrs. I just recently ( 2 months ago ) met his girlfriend. We hit it off and get along really well. The thing is, is that my male friend cheats on her and has even been hitting on me recently. The reason this is bothering me is because they have been together for almost a year and just had a baby together and she does not deserve this. I dont know if this is my place to tell her for the simple fact I have not known her very long and she probably will not believe me. On the other hand if I do tell her and she leaves him I'm going to lose a friend in the process. What do I do ?

Answer 1

What you do is what you feel is right. Sometimes in the process we lose a friendship trying to do what's right. The friendship lost can be the result of your friend not being able to accept the truth so she blames the messenger not the message. You could discover that she already knows the character of her boyfriend but will stay with him regardless but that 's a chance you have to take when you decide to tell her. Now make sure when you tell her if you must that you have no personal agenda in doing so. You can also leave well enough alone and if he's doing such he will eventually get caught without your help.

Answer 2

Depends--are YOU interested in him romantically?
If NO, then your loyalty lies with him first--TELL HIM TO KNOCK IT OFF! Buy your friends a book about relationships and see if they're interested in reading it as a couple. If this doesn't work, sit her down and say, "I love the both of you and truly wish to see your relationship grow. Your child deserves it! So, I want to warn you that he is showing interest in me and, perhaps, other females, so before he goes too far, have a talk with him and resolve this thing".
If she gets mad at you, or he gets mad at you it will go away eventually, so be patient, step out of the picture, and let them work it out.

Answer 3

if he is a good friend like you say then sit down and tell him how you feel,give him a woman's view of things.let him know how uncomforable you are about his advances to you and what an *** hes acting with his actions towards his girfriend maybe you could get through to him.but I wouldn't go to her becouse yor right she wont believe you and it would ruin your frienship with both of them.he is the one you know for 2 year stry talking to him if that doesnt work just let it ride, , every dog has his day.......

Answer 4

justme has a point. but, i'd like to take it a step further.

if the guys g/f asks you, tell her the truth. if she asks why you didn't tell her, the best answer is this: how could i? would you have believed me?

if she says: yes, i would have.
offer an apology and get out of the battlefield as quick as you can!

Answer 5

You cant do anything. You will loose both of them. Just sit back and watch the truth come out. It always does.

Answer 6

First you need to be honest with yourself and then you need to sit down with your friends and let them know what is on your mind and how you are feeling. You need to sit down with your male friend first and let him know that what he is doing is wrong and you need to let him know what you plan on doing. Then you need to sit down with his girlfriend, who is now a new friend to you and let her know how you feel. Basically you are caught in the middle and you need to find a way out.

Answer 7

Just plainly tell him to back off because you're not intrested, and watch everythign else unfold.

Answer 8

I think that is not your problem and you can hurt seriously to
somebody

Answer 9

mind your dam business