im going to freak out. we havent done anything together for months. all i want to do is go and spend 10 bucks at the casino. should i go by my self or just stay at home like always?
2006-06-23 07:41:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go and have fun!! You deserve it!!! He is nothing but a dink, anywho, so why would you want to have him ruin it for you??
2006-06-23 07:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by hotmama3712 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's a valuable lesson I learned from some great therapists:
Men are different than women. Sounds fundamental right? But we women just don't get that. Men are not as "flexible" as us. We can go out on a whim when we feel thin, our hair looks good, we bought a new eye shadow or we bought a great new pair of shoes. Men are NOT like that. They want to plan ahead and be pragmatic. You can't spring things like that on a guy. 9 times out of 10, they will resist and not want to go. Then we call them boring. I see it, experience it and hear it every single day.
If you want to go out... i would ask him as soon as you can to get him thinking about it. If you spring it on him, it probably won't work. When we look hot, our guys want to have sex with us, not go out to dinner or a casino or a club. WHen we feel we look hot, we want to go out and show the world. It's that simple!!
2006-06-23 14:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to join you and if he says no ohwell that is his problem. He lucked out spending a few hours out and about with his wife. You call your girlfriends and go out all night long. Then keep doing it. Don't stay home. Reverse Psychology, he sees you going out and having fun he may begin to get jealous that he isn't the one having fun with you and MAYBE join you on your next outting. Just don't cheat like some people do when they feel unhappy.
2006-06-23 15:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by sweetsugakb24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are going and ask if he wants to come along . If he declines . Go have some fun with friends . Don't vegetate just because you married a couch potato
2006-06-23 14:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by jim d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out by yourself and show him you dont need him to have a good time and you are tired of staying home..
2006-06-23 14:54:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to join you but if he won't, then definitely go by yourself! Or find a friend to join you. Don't ever sit around waiting on someone else to have fun! Life is waaay too short!
2006-06-23 14:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by TheGuru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesnt want to go then go by yourself. you dont need to depend on a man to have fun. you went through years without depending on one. maybe you should do that. just go out once a week by yourself or with friends. just some alone time. time away from your husband. that might help him realize that he needs to change
2006-06-23 14:47:16 · answer #7 · answered by Daisy Carlos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO! - There is absolutly nothing wrong with you going out by yourself. Leave him at home for the eveing by himself w/o any supper - he may change his mind the next time!
2006-06-23 15:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you two ever plan dates together? What's with both of you. Plan, honey, just don't surprise the poor tired guy with "well, I wanna go out tonight...." PLAN it's a four letter word.
2006-06-23 14:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by ladyren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go girlfriend... You ask the old fart to go and he says no that doesn't mean you have to sit beside him...
You are a grown woman go out have fun.
2006-06-23 14:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cant stay home all the time, take a friend.
2006-06-23 14:46:42 · answer #11 · answered by mikiewho2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋