My husband and I ride to work together every day (about 25 miles)mostly to save on gas, we work within a block of each other. By doing this I get to work 1/2 hour early and stay an hour and a half late most days. We also have lunch together whenever our schedules permit. This morning on the way to work we had an argument and he got out of the car in the middle of an intersection and walked a block or so to work. I poped into the drivers seat quick so as not to cause an accident and continued on to my office. Because my schedule is more flexable than his I usually wait for him. Lunch came and went and he nevr called so I called his work and his co-worker told me he had already gone to lunch. My question is this - I have another way home that would allow me to get home sooner than waiting the hour and a half for him. Should I leave the car at his work and go home on my own? He didn't even have the decency to say he didn't want to have lunch so that I could go on my own?
2006-06-23 07:35:15 · 17 answers · asked by B 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, whatever happened, if generally you love your husband, and this is kind of a one-time thing, then I would wait for him. While he won't appreciate it today, later he will.
Men get PMS too...it is probably some caveman day genetic connection where we all feel guilty we are not out there killing wooly mammoths!
2006-06-23 07:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by powhound 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you have a normally strong relationship - I say play the game. If it's rocky, I think it would be better if you were the bigger person and maybe didn't rock the boat.
You obvioulsy care deeply about his feelings or you wouldn't even be questioning it - but if you know that it is something that he will get over, go on home - get supper ready - do your normal nightly chores - then sit down and relax.... when he gets home, act like the argument never happened and brush it off.
2006-06-23 16:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, its perpetuating bad behavior and therefore might cause a night of animosity. Why not spare yourself the possibility of having this go on and on and just go pick him up, pretend it never happened and see if maybe he'll stop acting childish. I don't know what provoked the argument, but he's in the wrong now for acting hastily, and dangerously on the way in.
You aren't going to change the commute from now on, I don't think...so even though you can get home another way today, are you prepared to do that indefinitely? If not, then there's no point in doing it today.
Best wishes.
2006-06-23 14:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by lost_irish_75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go home and leave the car. No actually I would probably call him and apologize, but thats just me. I only say that because the bigger person is always the one who apologizes and that way you won't have to continue the fight once he gets home. Either way, good luck and have a good rest of the night!
2006-06-23 14:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mz_AmanDA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in what is known as "an emotional state"
whatever it is that he did, calm down, think about it (with your extra hour), and consider whether or not you love the guy, whether the relationship is more important than the argument and whether to not you can AFFORD to lose this fight
i use the world "afford" because sometimes you just can't afford to lose a fight, if it is something core in your belief or value system, then you can't let him trample on it
if you decide that you can afford to lose, then by all means, lose the fight and realize the relationship is more important than the fight
if you cant afford to lose, think it out through very thoroughly, think of the statements that you need to make in order to present an organized argument for your case, and then present it to him WITHOUT emotion
good luck
2006-06-23 14:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by whoisgod71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd bring him the car and take the alternative way home. I would not wait an hour and a half to ride with someone who probably wouldn't talk to me anyway!
2006-06-23 14:40:39 · answer #6 · answered by virgogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sounds like he needs to cool off. Leave the car at his work with a little note on the steering wheel and take the keys to his receptionist and just go home...good luck!
2006-06-23 14:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by Workinmamma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand wanting to over react - but I have been through a hard 6 months and the one thing that I have walked away with - ALWAYS TAKE THE HIGH ROAD!!! Things can get really ugly sometimes - if you always take the high road, you will never regret it.
I hope you make up and have a great weekend!!!!
2006-06-23 14:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by postprego 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a ride home, and let him come home later, by himself. It's going to be a rocky next few days at best, but HE started it, so you finish it. Don't tell him, just go on home......he'll get the message! Good Luck!
2006-06-23 14:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have another way home then go home. Or even better take the car home and let him find his own way home.
2006-06-23 14:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋