would you rather your husband tell you he had an affair or would you rather he ask you to swap with another couple?
2006-06-23 07:33:33 · 28 answers · asked by lowIQ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you were my husband you'll get kicked in your testicles!
2006-06-23 07:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by skdfjasl 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would rather him be honest and tell me the truth. I do not believe in hiding anything from someone that you love and if you have had an affair she has the right to know. And why do you think she would want to swap with another couple? That is something that you discuss before you sleep with another person not after.
2006-06-23 14:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by peachesgirl1212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather be told you had an affair so we can start counselling. To ask to swap is still lying AND tells me that you are no longer interested in me.
To respond to your e-mail:
Yes, I do know what swap means. However, if you are asking your girl to "swap" to make your concience feel better about having already cheated, you are still lying to her. If she is cool with the swap idea, tell her. She may be open to find out that you plugged some other chick. However, if you are doing it so that you can selfishly feel better, you are still lying by not telling her.
2006-06-23 14:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Wookie on Water 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
renew your wedding vows friend...Don't have an affair or do not swap....It will turn around and bite you in the *** eventually. If you are not interested in a monagamus relationship with your wife,move on,it is not fair to everybody involved. There is more to life than just SEX. Although sex is important in a relationship,so is trust and faithfulness,and most of all respect on both parts.God Bless. Seek help from your minister or someone that can help you and your wife. Ya can have your cake and eat it too,but it will hurt your marriage eventually. Good Luck
2006-06-23 14:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by Shortydeb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of your questions are signs of disrespect for the sanctity
of the marriage. I rather him not tell me either. Marriage is suppose to be honesty and respect for your spouse and affairs and asking to swap with another couple is disrespectful to ones
spouse.
If you need to have affairs and couple swap why be married you can mess around and be single. I thought marriage is suppose to stand for something.
2006-06-23 14:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id much rather the affair both r disrespectful you would put her in the position of making her think she will lose u if she she does not do the swing thing and that's worse then cheating either way u don't love her u don't respect her and most off u don't want her if you did she would b enough and that's not meant to be mean its just the real i feel sorry 4 her.
2006-06-23 14:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
swap answer. At least I could make a decision for myself. If he had an affair it would be over.
2006-06-23 14:45:52 · answer #7 · answered by suzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather swap with another couple. I've always wanted to do that anyway.
2006-06-23 14:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by u_wish1205 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swapping definitely!
2006-06-23 14:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by virgogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all this question without a doubt is comming from a man.well it kind of depends on where your at in your realashionship(this means) that only a very strong and I mean strong couple could get through either one of these dilemas.I know someone personaly who did the whole swapping thing and it ruined a marriage of 13 years.so my advise is to be faithful and commited after all those are the reasons why your in a realashionship to begin with,right.......................................
2006-06-23 14:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by vallegirl2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather he ask me to swap
2006-06-23 14:36:07 · answer #11 · answered by Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋