Summer of 2004 I met an amazing man. He has everything I had hoped for and more. I often hoped I would never wake up from the wonderful dreamland we shared. We moved in together a year after we met with plans to get married. Well life happens and not everything is as it should be. This summer I woke up into the nightmare. We had been living together for a year and I finally had to get out of the hell hole we had created in our home. I thought one of two things either he gives up and we continue going our separate ways or we have a cooling of period and we try to work things out from a distance.
Some of our issues include, but not limited to:
trust issues, grudges
unfulfilled promises
mother-in-law, his family
finances
The fact of the matter is I love this man. My brain tells me one thing, but my heart reminds me of the promise I made to stick through this for better of for worse.
2006-06-23 07:18:54 · 7 answers · asked by latina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are not married. Don't feel as tied down as you currently do. I think you guys need a timeout. Stay away from each other for any time between 2 weeks to a month. See how you feel about him then. Take some time to reflect on your thoughts. But state clearly to him that you guys will not see other people during this time period. It's only a timeout. You just need some time to get your thoughts together. Also, you guys have been together for 2 years. I think you will find a way to work out this issue. Best of luck.
2006-06-23 07:27:29 · answer #1 · answered by funkymonkey 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience in my ending marriage which had many of the same issues, some of those things can not be over come. Many times when you have trust issues they do not go away, they may not be spoken but they are not forgotten. The in-laws will always be your inlaws and they are pretty much set in their ways. My ex made so many promises and then only decided to have heartly do them once I moved my stuff out and filed for a divorce. My best advice is to move on. Don't try to fix something where only one person is doing all the work. Love should come so easy not take a lot of work.
2006-06-23 07:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by peachesgirl1212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Im happy for the love thing I am but well I myself don't like moving in with a man. Sometimes it can make them thing "well hell if ive got her cleaning the house and making dinner with sex, why the hell would i want to marry so fast?"
That may or may not be the case but honestly I dont think its a good idea to move in before marrige. You might have to move out and just cool off for the both of you. But well i dont have enough information. Id love to talk to ya about this, considering i might be heading for the marrige lane myself.
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2006-06-23 07:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the both of you need to go into relationship counseling, to see how to better the relationship and to hear each others side of things and to resolve those issues that are hindering the relationship...
2006-06-23 07:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, it will only get worse.
2006-06-23 07:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by ndmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhm good luck
2006-06-23 07:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
god will help u.............
2006-06-23 07:23:01 · answer #7 · answered by vicky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋