For some reason, I know my boyfreind thinks that I am sexy and pretty and all, but I just love him so much and want to be the most attractive person to him. You know what I mean? Anybody else get jellous, or feel hurt over things like that?
2006-06-23 06:26:24 · 11 answers · asked by Green Tea Happy 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
~*~*~ My answer is based on the assumption that these outbursts are undertoned with sexual attraction, and not artistic appreciation. That's what it sounds like from the tone of your question. That in mind, here is what I think... ~*~*~
Okay first of all, he shouldn't be telling you that another woman is gorgeous "with enthusiasm." What the hell is he thinking? You're his girlfriend. Even if he thinks that, he should just keep it to himself. How would he feel if you ran around saying "Oh honey, that dude is sooo freakin hot"?? I doubt he'd be very "enthusiastic" then. =P
If you see a woman and say "she's gorgeous"... or beautiful... or whatever, that's okay. I do that from time to time because I appreciate beauty in an artistic sort of way. But even at that point, my boyfriend knows better than to say anything. Or if he does it's just "Well no one's sexier to me than you."
In fact, one time he played a little joke on me when we were watching that Rihanna video "SOS." He goes "Wow... she is soooo beautiful." I gave him an evil look and he just laughed. It was good-natured, and he said "I knew you'd do that" with this big grin on his face. So since I knew it was all a joke, I laughed too. But if your boyfriend is just saying things like that, and expecting it to fly as actual conversation... I dunno what to tell ya girl. If it were me, someone would be getting the silent treatment. =P
And I would like to say, contrary to what others have said above me, it is not all about insecurity. I am extremely secure with myself... my looks, personality, etc. If my man said something like that, I wouldn't be concerned about actually losing him. I know better than that; and I know he knows he's got all he needs at home.
But what WOULD come to my mind is his level of respect. It is simply inappropriate to say something like that your girlfriend. Unless you're looking for a 3-some partner or taking auditions together for a porn, there's no logical reason for it.
2006-06-23 08:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do we get offended? Well, when you go and say : "Men make far more generalizations about us and what it means to be a woman on this forum", it really makes me mad, because that is a very sweeping generalizations. And as to why we get offended in the first place, well, it's because you are a woman and, unless you've had a sex change, have NO knowledge of how to be a man. "Man up" is an expression that should only be used by a male to another male. If you really want to get a close up experience of this, how about I tell you to act more ladylike? I'm assuming you'll be offended because I have no idea of what it is to be ladylike. Sorry for the rant, but I couldn't find a better way of getting my point across, so I hope this doesn't come off too mean.
2016-03-27 02:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by Sylvia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I feel the same way. I don't need to be the most attractive person, but I would like it if he showed some enthusiasm towards me the way he does other women. It completely annoys me. And whenever I bring it up I always get "You know I think you attractive or else I wouldn't be with you." But it would be really nice if he showed it. The most I get is he'll tell me my dress is too short or something. That's the only time I get a reaction out of him.
2006-06-23 07:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by stephanie7938 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
....First off how long have you two been together???
Honestly all men (some of us women) look at other women. I think you need to understand that if he is not going anywhere ( meaning he is going to cheat on you) then you have no worries. My man and i have been together for 5 years and we will pick out pretty women in the crowd. I doesnt bother me that he thinks this girl is pretty cause i know he is coming home with me....and no one else...
I think you need to make sure you are secure with your self and your relationship.....
2006-06-23 09:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by natale0624 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be a little jealous if he never referred to me that way. I would also be amused, guys just can't help themselves, but as long as he's taking ME home, I'm happy my man notices that there are other people in the world beside himself!
2006-06-23 06:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 30 years old and I still get offended by this. Most of it is because I am insecure with myself, I would guess that you have this same problem.
2006-06-23 06:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by hipchic_inhiding 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. I do the same thing to him. Either your secure in your relationship or you aren't. He loves you and you love him, but that doesn't mean either of you are dead or blind. It's not like he said she was prettier or sexier than you. THEN I would take offense, otherwise don't worry about it.
2006-06-23 06:35:19 · answer #7 · answered by Heathen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I know its me that he wants, or he wouldn't ever married me. He can look all he wants. I do the same and even say, dang that guy is so good looking blah blah blah.
2006-06-23 07:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by Moose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i don't because i know that look will not hurt in fact it is good for men to look a little as long as they don't touch and you know that he is coming home to you then why worrie.being jealous will ruin a relationship
2006-06-23 06:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by shyone_91786 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-06-23 06:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by nicegirl187smile 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋