My wife started an online relationship with another some stuff happened but they never met only through web cams. She now says that she wants to work it out but I told her that I didn't want her in chat rooms anymore nor to chat in her groups because he was in some of them am I being too controlling or should she be expected to take these steps if she is serious about us working things out.
2006-06-23 06:17:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think it is too much to ask. If that is where your problems stem from then she will just have to give it up. If she is serious about working things out, she shouldn't mind doing so.
2006-06-23 06:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by krisaquarius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see your point here and this is not controlling. You are just being honest with her and telling her your feelings. If she wants to save the marriage and work on it she will stop doing this all together and put you first. She will let the other guy go if she is serious. Seek marriage counseling with her too as i feel this will be needed. If she is not serious and cannot stop talking with this other man then you should let her go. Hope this helps:) I hope things get better for you and for your marriage.
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2006-06-23 16:09:55 · answer #2 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not being too controling, she shouldnt have started something with another person online, if you guys are having problems then may be its why she is looking for whats missing elsewhere, but if this is the only thing going on wrong then you are not being controling and she is being selfish
2006-06-23 13:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by professor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many marriages have broken up because of Internet chatrooms. Shes lucky the computer is not in the front yard and divorce papers in her hands. If my husband did that, God help him. If you take her back, one of the conditions should definitely be, No chatrooms, and put a block on them. Once someone has broken your trust they have to earn it back. Good Luck.
2006-06-23 13:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by SweetPiper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that is a reasonable request. Really it is the only option if things are going to work out between you too.
2006-06-25 03:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by sosickofred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi my name is james, if she really cares about you and wants to work it out, then she will stop going to them chat rooms. but as far as being controlling, believe me my brother, you cannot control this situation.
this is a situation where all you can do is talk to her about how you feel, and how it is bothering you, and see what happens, because believe me , a women is going to do what she wants to do.
no disrespect to women
james
2006-06-23 16:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by JAMES w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a bit controlling, but understandably so. If she truly wants to work on the relationship, she will follow your guidelines and try to regain your trust.
2006-06-23 13:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF she really wants to work things out then she will be willing to do everthing she can to make sure that it works. I don't think you are being controlling on that.I think that you are trying to make sure that it doesn't happen again. She should understand that.
2006-06-23 13:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't really think its fair for you to stop her completly...perhaps you can just go into a better explaination why it bothers you.. ask her why she needs an online relationship...
in my opinion i wouldn't be looking for online relationships if everything was perfect in my relationship..
perhaps there is something missing,
i don't mean to sound like i'm taking her side or anything..
2006-06-23 13:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you completely. Women always say you are controlling them if you are trying to stop them from ruining the relationship. She needs to stop using chatrooms, period.
2006-06-23 13:21:25 · answer #10 · answered by opticalnoise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋