Ex-Bf is asking people to call me . . .?

Question

My ex and I broke up a couple of weeks ago, he lied to me about the real reason why he wanted a break, only to find out he left me to be with someone else. I am really hurt and devasted about what happened.

I've been crying almost everyday and every night. He still emails me and texts me that he cares for me and he miss me. He is trying to show me that he feels terrible for what he has done, I dont need his pity.

Now he is asking people to call me ... last night his sister called, but I didn't pick up. Why can't he just leave me alone? The damage has already been done. Should I give him the satisfaction of knowing what is happening to me?

I know he just wanted to make it seem like he's the good guy, but he's just a selfish man who claims to have a conscience. I need some advice. Should I talk to his sister? What should I tell them? Serious answers only please. Thanks!

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Answer 1

well, it may be that he is feeling guilty about hurting you and he has asked his sister to call you to see if she can make you feel better.

You are wise enough to know that you need to move on, so you don't appreciate him checking up on you.

you can talk to his sister briefly and say "you are moving on and would appreciate it if the ex and his family, friends, etc. just allow you the grace and dignity to do so in peace."

Answer 2

I think that you should just go ahead and talk to his sister and find out why he's having her call and tell her that you're moving on so she can relay the message to the jerk. He's wrong for putting you through that.

You deserve better and you shouldn't give him the satisfaction of crying another tear over him. You'll find someone else, someone who deserves you and he'll be left all alone.

So just talk to her, I mean especially if you and her had talked before you can just play it off like you're extremely happy even if you're not. Just let him know that's he's not the only one and you're not crying over him anymore.

Answer 3

Don't keep in touch with him or his family - it's just like you said. Why would you want him back after him getting a new chick? If he's done this once to you he'll do it again cause you took him back with no problem. The worst thing is for him to know that you've been crying and dying without him - go through your grieving without him/family knowing it - let him think he's not worth your time and love and that he was easy to forget and move on - it will be difficult but you can do it he's not worth it.

Answer 4

Little sister, obviously this is a dude that does not respect you. You don't need that. You're better than that and you deserve better than that. Once he desided not to be with you he gave up his privileges to you. Delete the numbers out of your phone or change the names to "Don't Answer". Don't talk to his sister because she's always going to be on his side. She's not looking out for your best intrest at all. And that's not what you need right now.
What you need now is to make the choice not to be bullied by anybody. Not to be suckered by anybody. Not to be taken advantage of by anybody.
I know the pain of a love lost. It sucks. But again little sister you have to make the choice not to let it rule you. Don't be like so many other girls and in taking back a dude that is'nt worthy of you. You are worth having someone that won't hurt you. You are worth having someone that will be faithful to you. You are worth having someone that respects you and your feelings and your boundries. You are worthy of being happy. You are worth having all the things you want out of life.
Little sister be strong. Define your standards and don't bend them for anyone.
Best of luck to you young one. You'll be ok.

Answer 5

I would not give him the satisfaction of knowing what the breakup did to you. You don't owe him or his family anything. Don't talk to anyone unless you really want to. I wouldn't answer his emails or texts-just tell yourself you are better off without him and you will find someone perfect for you.

Answer 6

I know how hurt you can be and let me tell you i was cheated on by my b-f about 2 months after i gave birth to his son....

Yes it hurts and yest it feels like your world is collapsing .. But trust me it will get better..
I am proud of you decition of avoiding his calls rather than begging him to come back...

Dont let other do the talk ....
you and only you know if he deserves a chance..
on my opinion he doesnot...
He didnt even have BALLS to tell you why he was leaving you...

LOOK, MY X CHEATED ON ME WITH A GIRL THAT IS NOW SEEING 2 OTHER GUYS AT WORK..(MY X AND HER WORKED 2-GETER..) SO NOW HE KNOWS HE F U C K E D UP WHEN HE CHEATED..

GUESS WHAT???

NO I DONT WANT HIM BACK...

AND HE HAS TALKED TO MY MOM...TO HAVE HER GET TOME
HE HAS TALKED TO MY FRIENDS ASKING FOR HELP..

AND YOU KNOW...

A pice of CRAP like him only deserves another pice of CRAP just like the ***** HE HAD....

I AM TOO MUCH FOR HIM..

AND YES I STILL CRY AND WHEN I FEEL THE NEED TO CALL HIM OR TAKE HIM BACK... ALL I GUT TO DO IS THINK OF WHAT HE DID TO ME... AND I HAVE CURAGE NOT TO ....



GOOD LUCK BEST WISHES...

Answer 7

Please know that you are feeling hurt because ...you was always truthful to him...it hurts more when that happens...at least he let you know that there was someone else..please know that if you accept him back for what he has done he will do it again..he wants to have his cake and eat it too...i hope by the time you read this answer ...you are not with him...know that you will never trust him again..and it will hurt more ...in the long run....keep your head up...every dog have their day..

Answer 8

If you still love him and wanting to be with him, I think you should keep the communication open. Couple go throw a lot, it could just be hard time you are going throw and everything will go back to normal eventually.

Answer 9

He did it once, what makes you think he won't do again. People are creatures of habit. If you like doing something, you will do it again. It's a judgement call on your part. Me personally I would ditch him, there are better out there. I wouldn't talk to anyone that would feed him info about you.