I've been with my boyfriend (26) for 2 1/2 years. I have my own house, he lives with his parents. He must have stayed at home approx 5 times in the last 12 months - the rest of the time he's stayed here with me. BUT, he doesn't want to move in with my because my house is too small......................Explain!
2006-06-23 06:12:30 · 19 answers · asked by NJP 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, he pays rent to his parents. They even phone him to remind him if its a day late!
2006-06-23 06:35:52 · update #1
Men are strange you and i know he practically lives there anyway apparantly he is asserting his independence by not making it official or so my b/f says and much as I hate to admit it he might actually be right
2006-06-23 06:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by michelleramtulla 4 · 21⤊ 5⤋
Sorry sweetie, this aint gonna be what you want to hear..........
Your man would move in with you in a flash if he loved you enough, however, he is keeping his options open incase something else better comes along ( we both know that will never happen) but he is being very devious and keeping it simple. Even though he does live with you ( and we know he does) admitting it is making a commitment, and he isn't ready for that. Depending on how you feel about this depends on your actions.
I would end this relationship and wait for someone who deserves you, but you love him...... other option is to give him the ultimatum, you are well within your rights to do this at this stage, he is living in your place where you pay for everything and you deserve respect. It's either SHAPE up or SHIP out time honey.
Sorry if this seem abrupt advice, but anyone can be a mug.
Hope things turn out well for you.
xxxxxx
2006-06-23 06:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by sukimitchell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's ready to move out of his parent's house at that age but he shouldn't move in with you. He should get his own place and when you want to live together, you should move into a place together. This avoids any problems with one person being dominant over the other because they own the house or they lived there first. It also allows him to take responsibility for himself rather than his mum or you having to take responsibility for him. Tell him to go and get a shared house with his friends or his own place or you will end up being his substitute mother.
2006-06-23 06:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this is an convenient excuse and he's saying he's not ready to be exclusively with you. He wants his freedom!!! He sponges off of his parents for a while, then comes and sponges off of you. Get rid of the bum. He probably has another girlfriend on the side too...."house is too small??" Give me a break! Wise up, kido....
2006-06-23 06:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that he has already moved in with you in the true sense of it. Maybe he just wants to keep his room open at his parents in case it does not work out between you. He sounds a little scared and insecure just give him some space and don't pressure him. He does love you or he would not be with you after this length of time.
2006-06-23 06:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by happyflamepepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the house being small is an excuse...
when my b-f moved in with me we lived ina single....tiny place..
but that didnt matter .. he wanted to be serious about us and commit in most ways...
look I WANT TO BE HONEST YOU KNOW WHAT IT IS...
HE WANTS A STABLE GOOD GIRL (YOU)
BUT WANTS THE FREEDOM OF BEING OUT AND ABOUT.. WITH OUT YOU...
well girl let me tell you if his 26 and still lives at his parents that should tell you something...
and something else...
if he stays with you 90% of the time... make him pay some bills...
maybe you should tell him....
are you going to live here or there...
if you dont want to move in... then.. u can stay here ocationaly but not dayli....
it looks like to me you gut youre self a 26 year old son...
good luck...
2006-06-23 06:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must not be ready to commit. He seems to be using you for sex. Why else would he still live with his parents?? No offense, but what a scrub. I think most guys would definitley want to live with their girl instead of parents. He must not be able to handle responsibility.
2006-06-23 06:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he pay rent or bills at his parent's house?
Maybe he's the sort that has it cushy and he doesn't want to feel 'trapped' or 'grown up' by having to chip in for bills etc..? Maybe he just sees it as being grown up and he can't handle it?
2006-06-23 06:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by sirdaz_uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, sounds like an excuse to me too. If he really thought a lot of you, and was ready to commit himself, he would want to live with you if it were in a shoebox! Good luck!
2006-06-23 06:20:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if he's got a good thing living there rent free and then going home to mum and dad hold him down and tell him your not happy with whats going on
2006-06-23 06:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by ALAN B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not ready to give up his freedom,
he still wants to play around before
he gives up that commitment of moving in with you.
2006-06-23 06:19:59 · answer #11 · answered by aaakids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋