Beside my husbands store, lives his ex girlfriend who is now divorced, and has one child a little girl. I never cared about this, but today i found a paper that he brought home from work, because he wrote the grocery things on it when he went shopping, so i was looking at this paper and i found that he was writing things on it that i didn't understand, then i figured that he was writing backward, so that no one knows what he's writting like for example, instead of writing "Jack" he wrote "kcaj", anyway he was writing his girlfriend's name, and her daughters name, followed by his name and his family name, like she's his wife, and then her name, and then he wrote something and scratched it.
i know she comes to his store to buy some things, and they talk about things, sometimes sexual things, like he told me he asked her if she's going out, and if she did it after she got divorced (you know what i mean), but i never thought it's serious or anything.
2006-06-23 06:01:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What does this paper mean, should i be worried?
2006-06-23 06:02:19 · update #1
He's cheating
2006-06-23 06:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by berkeleygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cute,
Why should you be worried? If you are worried, go to him and ask him about it and if you have any reason to be worried about this situation. How long have you been married to this man? Has he ever given you reason to believe that he would stray? Rearrange the letters on the pare to read whatever it reads and take it to him and ask him what it means. Allow him to be perfectly honest with you. He may be just fantasizing, like men do, about what could have been. People doodle all the time. I think if it were a major issue and he was really focused on anything sinister, he would not have left that paper where you could get to it. You sound pretty clever to me and he must think so too or he wouldn't have put it in code. It could mean nothing, it could mean everything, but you will never know until you confront it. After that, keep your eyes open.
Good Luck
2006-06-23 13:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by mrschloerichardson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have reason to be concerned and worried over the state of your marriage. I advice you to talk with your husband, show him the paper. Tell him how worried and concerned you are and how deeply you love him and need him, how important hi is to you. Be prepared for a big hurt. He may tell you he wants to go back to this woman. If he does, it is best for you to find out sooner rather than later.
I am sorry honey. I know how much this will hurt if you two break up. However, the pain will pass in time. You deserve somebody who will love you as deeply as you love him. If it is not this man, then you need to find out now so you can greive this end of this relationship and all the dreams you had for it, and then get back out there and allow the man who is your true mate to find you. Don't just jump into another relationship right away if this happens. Take the time to greive and heal. You would not do well in a relationship when you have not fully greived and gotten over an old one. I hope your husband decides his love for you is deeper than his physical attraction to this other woman.
People are attracted to others all the time, even when they are in a loving and committed relationship. However, if you do not act on it it will fade away. We all have these chemicals called pheromones and they are attracted to specific other pheromones of the opposite sex. Many people to not understand how this works and make the mistake of believing this type of attraction means they must not love their current partner and they leave. Then they lose that attraction and find another one and so on and so forth, bouncing from one physical attraction to the next, never being able to sustain a long term relationship as it is all based on the physical and not the emotional bond which is so important between two people. There is so much more to a relationship than just the physical part. So many never learn this truth and it devestates so many lives. I hope you get this worked out between the two of you.
Explain to your husband about this pheromone chemical and how if he does not act on it it will go away. He will one day look at her and wonder what he ever say in her. Find out if his bond with you is strong enough to sustain him through these times he is physically attratted to others. It is normal but so many always act on it and ruin their current relationships.
Good luck and the the most happiness life can bring. You deserve to be loved by a man as you love him. Do not settle for less than real committed love by a man who will honor and respect you.
2006-06-23 13:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by Serenity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. You cant do anything else. But make sure you keep the paper in a safe place so you can show it to him. In the first place, he'll tell that you're wrong. THen show him the paper and from his reaction you'll figure if there's sth going on. You cant do anything else....
Good Luk
Another sollution, would be to hire a detective who will follow ur husbant!!!! I' kidding of course...
2006-06-23 13:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by smaragda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can trust him...you seem really nice, but don't let him walk all over you. I would confront him about the paper, but don't sound to forceful or he will get defensive with you. Just tell him how you feel, he's your husband and you know how and when you can approach him. You really need to tell him how you feel. But of course first you should sit down and realise how you feel. Someone women might not care and others would be really worried. I'm sure you want your husband to be honest with you and love you. Make yourself available for him to come to you. I tell my husband that I love him so much, and the last thing I would want would be for him to want to be with someone else, but if that ever happened not to lead me around in suspision, but just to let me know. Maybe you should do that with your husband? You cannot make someone love you, you can only hope that they want to. Just let him know your heart and concerns, and then let your stress go. If he respects you, he will come to you.....if you let your mind run around like this it will make you crazy. Let him carry the burden and let him come to you......let it go and everything will show itself. Use your mental energy for something positive for yourself........
2006-06-23 13:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by dlmvm0612 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think you might have cause to be worried. Perhaps you should confront him with the paper and tell him that you are worried about his behavior.
2006-06-23 13:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be careful and watch him not the paper.
2006-06-23 13:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be worried as he is fantasising about this woman.
Confront him about it with evidence on hand and see what he says....
Good luck
2006-06-23 13:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(cough) (cough)(cough) hire a private investigator or get some teenage punk to watch your husband. you can never be too sure
2006-06-23 13:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by •Sir Leon• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him now before he does somehthing
2006-06-23 13:08:23 · answer #10 · answered by MandaSue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF i was you i would ask him what that means and who he wanted to be with me or her.
2006-06-23 13:33:20 · answer #11 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋