When is the end really the end, an why should anyone stay with someone when they are unhappy.. It only makes the kids unhappy in the future, so how do know when it is really the end?
2006-06-23 06:01:31 · 14 answers · asked by cafemochamamma@yahoo.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you do not love him anymore, and you cannot picture yourself growing old with him. when everything about him bothers you, and you are unhappy and depressed all the time. When you feel he has not taken care of you,( not in the financial way, the emotional way).
2006-06-23 06:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by Dulcinea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right, a miserable marriage isn't good for the kids, but why are you miserable? I think you need to get to the root of that question.
Sometimes the answer is more obvious - if he beats you, neglects you or cheats..well..bounce the scum!
Sometimes things just go from exciting to a dull roar. A little work from both of you can bring back the fire.
Sitting down with a marriage counselor would probably be a good idea. You can do it alone, but better to go with the hubby so the two of you can discuss your problems and see if they can be resolved so you can both be happy.
Divorce sucks, but sometimes it is necessary. Even if you can't save the marriage, if you can part by mutual agreement, you may be able to save a lot of the ugliness that can come afterwards.
Most importantly the two of you will need to cooperate regarding the kids and agree to not stick them in the middle of your anger and hurt.
Take care.
2006-06-23 08:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its personal for each person. For me it was when I couldn't stand the thought of coming home and finding my husband there. I evn took a second job so I didn't have to come home. I didn't want him to touch me or even exist anymore. When you get to that point it's really a relief to leave
2006-06-23 06:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by MandaSue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave him. Think of ways of getting back at him and making him miserable. Look for companionship elsewhere; someone who makes you happy. Don't let the man go scot free. Give him a taste of his own medicine.
2006-06-23 06:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sangita Sethi nee Malhotra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only when all else fails. If there is absolutely no hope, why prolong the agony. But, too many people give up when the mess could have been fixed.
2006-06-23 06:07:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he cheats, i have a big heart to always give a chance..
if he's irresponsible, i could work with him..
if we are not compatible, perhaps we could talk about it..
but..
if he beats me,
we'll see in court and definitely it will be the end of everything!
2006-06-23 06:14:01 · answer #6 · answered by * wiSH * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when communication has broken down and their is no hope for counseling...its time! sorry about your problem, good luck in the future.
2006-06-23 06:15:16 · answer #7 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 2 no-no's are: beats or cheats.
2006-06-23 06:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when all other options are tried and failed
when neither party is willing to try
when you are more miserable then happy
2006-06-23 06:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he cheats doesn't come home after work when hes out all night doing god knows what with god knows who and when the fire is out in the bedroom you know wat i mean girl
2006-06-23 06:06:49 · answer #10 · answered by jonathanwifey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋