My husband and I used to go crazy for each other. Ever since we had our baby everything has gotten so boring. Why??? and what can I do to make everything back to how it was??
2006-06-23 05:57:30 · 16 answers · asked by yeah yeah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's harder to be spontaneous-make sure you make the time to be alone, go out together, or just be home alone. My ex and I would sometimes bring our son to our parents just for a night-and go home and just spend the time in our house alone-it did wonders!
2006-06-23 06:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by ceffedupwithwhiners 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to start scheduling sex for a little while.
You know when the baby is down for the evening. Call or e-mail your husband and tell him that on this night at this time, the two of you are going to do something really wild together!
The two of you can get excited "planning" things! It may not go completely as you plan but that is where the extra fun is!
Just plan on not getting as much sleep for one evening and have some fun! Try different areas of the house! Use your imagination.
Have fun and good luck
2006-06-23 06:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have hit one of the many lulls relationships can enter during a lifetime together. Listen, the best thing to do is discuss this with your husband. Find out if he is overly tired or if he feels he may hurt you now you gave birth. Some guys think they could hurt their wives if they have too much sex or overly energitic sex after a wife gives birth.
Just talk with him about this and tell him you want to liven things up between the two of you again. Make sure you make time for him. Go out on weekly dates and flirt with him, let him know how attracted you are to him. Find out what is going on with him. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. If something is bothering him it may take a while for him to be able to really talk it over with you. It may be something he is feeling shamed for feeling. Like maybe he is jealous of the baby and is not coping with that emotion well. When a man is use to having his woman all to himself and then has to share her, he can feel jealous or that he doesn't mean as much, and he could be feeling bad for having these feelings. Communication is key. Talk with him and get him to open up and make sure you find the time for the two of you to do things together without the baby at least once a week. It is critical to your relationship. What better gift can you give your children than a healthy happy marriage which can weather the times of a long term relationship? Blessed Be.
2006-06-23 06:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by Serenity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl thats my story,
with me and my husband since we had the baby nothing is the same we use to go crazy on each other every 24/7 but, know everithing has change. Some people tells me that my selfstem is down or it cut be because your probably thinking of your baby 24/7 so you can thing or do somrthing else. or like me i dont like doing nothing when my baby is near or when she is not sleeping.
some times my husband gets man because of thet but i dont realy now if am doing wrong or right.
2006-06-23 06:06:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because he has gone though all excitements and thrills while he is bachelor and now he has become father & husband, of course his responsibles getting higher and higher.
Things will not be the same as previous because once you are married, it is not only concern on single matters but is a commitments of family issues. Unless, your husband would go for a wild outside affairs, otherwise he would rather stay bore at home.
2006-06-23 06:05:05 · answer #5 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 kids. My two youngest(3&0) are from my husband. I never had a problem with my first one. But this last one it was different. The whole time I was pregnant I wanted him, but as soon as he was born(in Jan) I did not want my husband to touch me unless I came to him first. But its all good now. i just got all weird (maybe post-partum depression).
Its very hard to get back on the sex wagon. But just go for it. You know exactly what turns him on. Do it. if its kisses, teasing, dancing, being rough, just do it as soon as he comes in from work(that is if you guys are alone) and have a quickie. Thats what I did, and believe me he loved it. And its like it was when we first met. Been together 5 yrs.
2006-06-23 06:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by sweetsugakb24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spontaniety is out the window now. Not to mention, depending upon his physche, he may now view you as a mom, not the kinky crazy sex machine you once were. Did you keep weight on after the fact? Has the baby turned you into a grump because of lack of sleep?
2006-06-23 06:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hard because you loose the spontanious moments you used to have. It will come back but you do have to work at it. The baby probablyhas a schedule, schedule time for sex too!!! If your too tired for sex just cuddle time, no TV just laying together and talking, I have 3 boys and I've been there before!!!
2006-06-23 06:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by MandaSue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to spice it up by going out for date night a couple a times a month. Nice Dinner, then foreplay in the car and then use your imagination.
2006-06-23 06:00:49 · answer #9 · answered by housewives5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
weight again backs a man back away and some say when a man see the birth of their child it really backs them back away from the wife i say toys or dress up customs role play watch porn use food strawberries ice whip cream good luck
2006-06-23 06:08:00 · answer #10 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋