My wife came home from work and started flirting with me, realy tuning me on. All night. We put the kids to bed and then we went to bed. No more than 10 min. she slips under the sheets. Then she says "I have an infection" and I say, how did that happen within the past 5 min. She was pissed. WTF! if she knew she had an infection why get me all horned up for nothing. Am I being selfish?
2006-06-23 05:45:20 · 18 answers · asked by Andy S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you are not being selfish! You have the WTF thing right!
I am a woman and flirting with your man is a great way to end up with great sex - there is no other reason to do it.
She was playing with you and you had every right to call her on it...and - at the risk of being a little crass...she still could have done something to difuse the situation - infection or no infection - unless it was a full body infection...
I say to you - good luck and God bless
2006-06-23 05:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by auntb629 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Men sometimes misread "affection" and "acts of demostrated love" as sexual come ons. This is a common mistake many men make. It is normal as guys think differently than women do. A woman is able to show affection without it having to be a sexual come on. But men see these acts as sexual come ons and then every thing gets misunderstood and feelings get hurt. Listen, if your wife is demostrating emotional love, this does not mean she is trying to arouse you sexually. Women need to understand that men react the way they do and try to hold back just a bit on the emotional love stuff unless they seriously are ready to hop into bed and go at it like rabbits. However, men also need to understand that women can show affection without it being a sexual come on leading to an expectation of sex later. Just communicate and you will be Ok. If you "think"' she is coming on to you just ask her if this is what she is doing. If she says she is just demonstrating affection, not trying to arouse you accept that. But expain that she is accidently giving off mixed signals to you as you are a guy and look at those affectionate guestures as a sexual come on. This way with proper communication you will both learn how to deal with any situation which rises up. Pun intended!! lol
Good luck in learning proper communication. Communication is the key of a successfull relationship. The sooner you begin opening up you and talk more the happier you will be.
2006-06-23 12:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by Serenity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is pretty messed up!She should have told you about that before turning you on.My husband would be pissed too.How did she get an infection,and what type of infection??Did she cheat on you or something.You should do the same to her.Get her all aroused,then stop and tell her you can't have sex with her,since she has an infection.
2006-06-23 12:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by JohnsWife81 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Kick the slapper out!
You deserve so much better than a pissed up slag of a wife!!
Get yourself checked out too just in case shes been really selfish and given it you as well
& Yes she is completely selfish you are not!!
2006-06-23 12:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Mel.B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no I don't think you were wrong to be a little upset . If she has an infection . Hey how would she like it if it was the opposite way around . Try telling the same thing to her one day after you finish getting her roused up ...and see the reaction she gets , but get ready to defend yourself ..lol
2006-06-23 12:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by HAPA CHIC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps her infection stimulated her to flirt with you without her realizing what she was suggesting, also...there is nothing wrong with her taking care of you while her infection clears up...no sense in both suffering over it.
2006-06-23 12:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow what kind of infectiondoes she have uneed to find out and u go get a check up for yourself take a std test maybe shes doing something and she wanted to blurt it out to make it look like it came from u but it didnt and now she thinks she in the clear
2006-06-23 13:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A yeast infection? a bladder infection? Big squeak ... She wants to play but wants you to know and behave accordingly...you might have screwed up royally if that was the issue. and she should be pissed.
HIV, herpes...nother matter, and you did right
2006-06-23 12:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by gcbtrading 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a word...yes. Why does every bit of affection have to turn into sex? Can't she just let you know she loves you without "the big payoff" men seem to expect? Do you ever just let her know you find her attractive without it being about sex? Sometimes women just like a little affection.
2006-06-23 12:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by lsparks5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes women love to flirt, doesn't mean we want sex!!! thats just a communication barrier between men and women. i can see why you'd be upset, sorry, that does kinda suck. she could have said something a little sooner. but just so ya know (don't automatically think because she's flirting that she wants to jump your bones) sometimes we want to foreplay of it!! take the fun out of it all and its just sex.n big whoop
2006-06-23 12:51:13 · answer #10 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋