I have strong fellings for someone how isnt my boyfriend and i dont know how to tell him and im afraid to tell him cause they dont like each other and that might start a problem but i feel he needs to know and we always said we tell eachother eveything so what do i do?
2006-06-23 05:28:36 · 25 answers · asked by mrs sexy cool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
either you tell him or not, someone will get hurt. If you dont tell him you will just torture yourself by staying with him, and theres the risk that he would find it out sooner or later from somebody else. so be brave and tell him, let yourself be free, nobody can stop you but yourself.
2006-06-23 05:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by Haynaku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. I had feelings for another guy for a while and I was honest with my B/F, that's what happens is adults don't like to be adults and tell the truth, if people would tell the truth from the get go and whole lot of hoopla would not happen. How would you feel if your B/F told you he'd been going with someone for a while and now he has strong feelings for the person? You would probably feel let down,disappointed etc. Just remember to treat people as you wish to be treated my dear, don't leave him on a string until you figure out your feelings. And like someone else said here, maybe reexamine you thoughts and feelings, maybe it's just a phase, I'm sure will all go through it. Take care and good luck!!
2006-06-23 05:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by Barbie doll lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key word in your quesstion to me was "might" have. Do not hurt your bf over something that might be something that can pass tomorrow. It is not worth it. Let it ride a while. Say in a year if you still feel the same way, or if less and the other man you have feelings for expresses intrest in you and something should devlope then your bf will know soon enough. If you and your bf have not been connecting very well lately it isn't uncommon to have fleeting thoughts about someone else. Just weigh it up and I hope everything woris out for you
2006-06-23 05:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, it is normal to be physically attracted to other people than your partner during the course of life. It is a chemical reaction which neither of you can stop. I was in this exact same predictament once and was very confused. How could I be attracted to another man when I loved my husband so deeply? I went to my father and he is the one who explained what was happening, that it was normal. He also explained that it is not the attraction which is wrong but what you do with it. He told me that if I did not act on the attraction it would dissapait on its own. He was right, it did. After a while I wondered what I ever saw in that person. So many people mess up wonderful relationships due to not understanding how physical attraction works and if you do not act on it it will go away in time. It is best to stay away from the person you feel this attraction towards, as that helps it go away quicker.
Do you have strong feelings for your boyfriend? If you do you should not say anything to him about this physical attraction you are experiancing. If you have a good relationship, love your boyfriend, don't hurt him by telling him about this attraction. Just do not act on it and it will go away.
Are you going to act upon every single attraction you feel for a member of the opposite sex? If you do you will never have a successfull long term loving and deeply bonded relationship. You will bounce from one affair to another and never understand why relationships do not work out for you. Relationships based only on physical attraction and not common traits will always fail. Physical attraction does not mean anything other than you are experiancing a chemical reaction to anothers pheromones. We all have pheromones which are attracted to certain other pheromones. This is not something to base relationships on though, unless that attraction is accompynied by mutual interests, emotional bonding and common beleafs.
If you care for your boyfriend do not say anything, avoid this person and this attraction will fade away. Good luck in working through this very common situation and hopefully you are grown up enough to understand there is more to life than physical attraction.
2006-06-23 05:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by Serenity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest! When playing the love game if you tell the truth, chances are people will get hurt a lot less. But if you lie about your feelings and then act on them and your boyfriends finds out later, you would look like an ******. So be honest and open. And if your a real woman you will not play games with peoples hearts.
2006-06-23 05:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by Fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath and go for it. It's summer time and maybe one of the two boys will go away for holidays, so choose to tell him a day before he or the other guy go away for holidays. Then, hope that when they'll meet again, the whole story will be "fogoten".
Before you tell him to break up or about the other boy, make sure that your feeligs are real and not only an enthusiasm....
2006-06-23 05:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by smaragda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to be blunt Your no longer a poor human being for having emotions for someone else who isn't your boyfriend even if the way your handling this example is terrible. you've actual shown what I easily have already suspected "i do not even comprehend that this guy likes me decrease back, your in undemanding words staying including your boyfriend because your afraid in case you promote off him and issues do not exercising consultation with the different guy your all on my own, your attempting to hide your own **** the following. look in case you provide one iota about your bf you'll end issues with him, you do not have emotions for him and that is all the clarification no longer to be in a relationship with someone.
2016-11-15 04:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to rethink over these feelings.What if ur strong feelings for the other person are just a passe?You sure u want to jeoparadise ur present relationship?You can tell ur bf directly about whats haunting u.But then,u wont be trusted again by him or the other man,for ur actions or sincerity of feelings.Learn to sustain relationships.
2006-06-23 05:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you have stong feelings for someone else you need to ask yourself if you really love your boyfriend.IF not then why are you still in this relationship? If you do love him then forget about this other guy.If you tell your boyfriend that you have feelings for someone else than you are really going to hurt him. Just make up your mind on who you want to be with and go from there. also remember.....THE GRASS IS NOT ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE.
2006-06-23 06:47:23 · answer #9 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes feelings can be just that, a feeling and they usually pass, but if you are just pleasure seeking then follow your feelings but tell him in a nice but gentle way,
anyway, how do you know if its a trick or not? guys make bets, hit on their best friends girl or because he doesn't like him he may find you to be the ultimate weapon.
2006-06-23 05:35:29 · answer #10 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋