My best friend and I are cousins and my other friend just had a baby but my boyfriend wont let me go see either of the them he says that I act different when I am around them...but I dont see it!! My friend doesn't like my boyfriend either!!!
2006-06-23 05:05:53 · 23 answers · asked by Poptart_fingers~!~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My problem is I also live with him and don't have anyone else to live with so I kinda have to deal with it!!!
2006-06-23 05:10:54 · update #1
A boyfriend is someone that is important in your life but your friends are even more important. I would take his behaviour as a danger signal. The first thing a controller wants to do is isolate the person the object of his desire from her family and support people.That way he becomes the most important person in her life and finally the only person in her life. If he can't respect your right to have and like your friends then he is not the one for you. These are people you have chosen to be part of your life and you have the right to spend time with them. Remind him that these people are your friends and he doesn't have to like them but he does have to show both them and you respect.If he can't do that kick him to the curb and get on with finding the man that can respect your choices and your friends.
2006-06-23 05:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your just willing to let this guy control you. hmmm. Not only is he choosing your friends but your family too and your letting him! You must be really in LUST not love with this guy or extremely weak. Honey grow a back bone and move on. A real man will NOT be jealous of your friends nor will a real man tell you who you can be friends with. Are you with this guy just because you need a place to live?? Get a job and find yourself an apartment. It's not that hard. You can do it and deep down you know you can. Keep going like this and the next thing you know your be bare foot and pregnant and then he will really be controlling you! Get out while you still can!
2006-06-23 05:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by badoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in that same situation a long time ago. But I was not going to give up my friend, I had known her way longer than I knew him, I figured if it bothered him that much maybe I didnt need him. But after a long time, and him finally getting it thru his head, he just got over it. Then yrs later she got mad at me, still dont know why, so I was glad I didnt end a relationship. I had a better time with my bf anyway. Youll figure it out, keep the faith.
Whoa--that should have been mentioned first! But I was there too, in fact for a while I wasnt allowed friends. So I only visited with friends while he was at work. And yeah, he got over this too after a while. Just dont ever let him control you. Im sure he has friends you may not like much. Best of luck!
2006-06-23 05:17:01 · answer #3 · answered by flowerinatx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new boyfriend that will get along with your friends and isn't so controlling. There are going to be a lot of different boyfriends throughout your life but you friends are forever especially if you are cousins. If your boyfriend can't except your friends in a way he can't except you.
2006-06-23 05:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by maeghan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he won't let you see your friends then maybe you should say he can't see his friends. It's not fair for him to tell you who you can and cannot see. He may not be the best choice for you to be dating especially because he is acting like that. i had a friend that had a boyfriend like that and it escalated to where he wouldn't let her g out with anyone but him. Then he also would be verbally abusive, and she is still with him because she loves the person he is when he isn't bossing her around. Truthfully if this guy if going to try to control you like that I wouldn't stay with him. i would try to find someone to stay with temporarily if you leave him. It will be hard but you can do it.
2006-06-23 05:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by mandi88_bailey05_ray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Red flag....If your boyfriend is restricting you now from being with your friends and family he may become more possessive as time progresses. He should be more open to your feelings and realize how important the birth of this child is for you. Those closest to us sometimes can see what we can't so have a heart to heart with your family and friends about why they don't like your boyfriend.Ask your boyfriend, how he would feel if he was in your position, if he can't sympathize or have empathy, you need to reconsider your future with him
2006-06-23 05:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by CURIOUS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is a control freak. You have every right to see your friends. And of course you act different- "girl power"! If he doesn't like it...TOO BAD! Don't let him control you. Get rid of HIM, not the friend and cousin!
2006-06-23 05:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by 4kidsmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look dont give me that I have to deal with it.. Why don t you get a job, adn if you have one move out.. there is no I have to..There might be a I want to.. that is different..
And most guys are like this.. ,my b-f is like that, but you knwo I dont let him choose my friends.. Because one day he might cheat and be out of the pic.. and the only thing left will be my friends... also it is all insicurity from his side of the pic. why? cus he might think they are a bad influence, look if you going to let this man control ur life then good luck. He will never aprove any one arround you,, so be ready for a lonly life..
My friedns b-friend is like that , and you know I gut tired of being the sholder to cry on... every time he broke her heart... because the times he was mad at her or not talking to her where the only times she would call... and every time I needed a shoulder, she was ok with him and had no time for me... Because he wouldnt allow her to talk to me...
My hole preagnancy i spent crying... and deppress,, WHERE WAS MY SO CALLED BEST FRIEND...???? no where to be found... why ????? she was fine,,,, about 3 months agoe.. her B-FRIEND CHEATED on her and guess who she called... ME..
FORTUNATLY I WAS TOO BUSSY TAKING CARE OF MY SON TO LISTEN TO HER...
I had enough.... I WANT A TRUE FRIEND NOT AN OCATIONAL ONE...
SO BE PREPARED IF ONE DAY YOUR FRIENDS DONT WANT TO DEAL WITH YOU ANY MORE...
2006-06-23 05:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend sounds WAY to overprotective. you have known your friend longer and it sounds like she could use some help...after all she just had a baby. dont listen to your boyfriend...he is NOT the boss of you...you are. after all "boys will come and go but friends will be forever"
i hope i helped and good luck!
2006-06-23 05:13:07 · answer #9 · answered by oMg_ItS_eViE28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find yourself another boyfriend b/c he sounds like he is being possessive. He should respect your wishes and allow you to go and see your friend's baby.
2006-06-23 05:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋