2006-06-23 05:04:36 · 7 answers · asked by Simple22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
date him or her A LONG time. are you still happy after the initial excitement has worn off? i think it's better to live w someone before you marry them too. you don't REALLY know someone till you live with them.
are you happy spending time with them doing absolutely nothing? are you both willing to compromise? do you both want the same things in the future? do you laugh a lot together? do you trust each other? do you miss each other when you go a long time w/o seeing each other? is the sex great?
some questions to ask yourself before you get married...if you answered yes to all of them then chances are it will be a successful marriage.
there are a lot of people getting married too soon. i think thats one of the reasons why so many people get divorced. don't rush it, if it's meant to be you're both not going anywhere.
2006-06-23 05:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by murfeezlaw 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a feeling that things are right the initial feeling may be doubt but do you love that person? Does that person make you feel special no matter what are they there for you do they listen with out a judgemental ear can you talk to them and them you. Are you happy most of the time, Are there lil arguments that the make up process is great If you answered yes to most of these then your mate is your friend first and friendship makes a good marriage! So yes you would be marrying the right one!
2006-06-23 05:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all - let me tell you something I just discovered - that is of significant importance! You can never know for certain about anything...if we did....we'd all be living the perfect life...but don't let that scare you. Here is what you need to ask yourself: The person that I am considering marrying....how was His/Her parents marital relationship? THIS IS OF HUGE IMPORTANCE! If his/or parents had a loving marital relationship (of course with it's normal ups and downs), then you are most certainly guaranteed a happy one yourself! My husband of 19 years just called it quits on me! He was an incredibly responsible and independent man, with good morales. He swore that divorce would never be an option in our lives together because of what he went through as a young teen - witnessing the horrible relationship between his mom and dad. However, he buried that experience deep down, and it surfaced in our relationship! His father refused to work on their marriage, now my husband (his son), has refused to work on ours...he took the easy way out....just as his father did! Don't get me wrong... they are both nice men....but they just don't know how to relate to women when the going gets tough - they have never heard of the word "intimacy".
Do yourself a big favor - get the book called "The Dance of Intimacy" and read it! Forget the name of the title - it's not about sex. It's about people and relationships, knowing what we know, and uncovering what we don't want to know...I am reading it now... and I think every person on earth should read it!
Just get it - it's real easy reading - and it is unbelievably empowering stuff!
Good luck in your decision to marry the "right person"... it may be, or it may not be... but you'll never know - because nothing is guaranteed - I just found out the hard way!
Barbara in PA
2006-06-23 05:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by BabsinPA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as the right person. It is a myth. Do NOT get married. It will fail.
2006-06-23 05:10:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you have to ask that question you probably aren't.
2006-06-23 05:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by on my way 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u don't have to ask this question
2006-06-23 05:10:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll just know
2006-06-23 05:11:15 · answer #7 · answered by trojan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋