how do you tell your wife you cheated on her?

Answer 1

DON'T! Why would you want to tell her, or more to the point what good can come of her knowing? You want to tell her because you feel guilty, its your problem, deal with it; don't off-load it on to her.

If you HAVE to tell her, but ONLY because it is going to come out anyway then sit her down, put yourself nearest the exit and remove all sharp objects, guns etc from the house.

Answer 2

If you don't have to tell her, don't. But stop doing it. If you feel guilty and you should, confess it to a trusted friend or clergy. Someone who will never divulge the info. Your wife didn't do anything wrong, don't mess with her head. You are the one with the problem, don't make it hers. You've already been selfish enough. And I don't say that to chastise you, I am so not without sin, I say that cuz it's truth.

Answer 3

I know you may be thinking thats the right thing to do but, think twice before doing it. If it were me, and my husband cheated on me, I would be so absolutely devistated. I dont think I would ever want to know that. Now, if you are planning on leaving her, or dont care if she leaves you, just spit it out. But if you know it was a mistake, and never plan on doing anything like that again, which I hope, please do not break her heart. and thats what it will do, it will break her heart and she will never ever really trust you again. and it will put such a cloud over your marriage. If you must confess, do it to someone else, go tell a pastor or councelor, but dont tell her. I wouldnt want to know. I would never look at my husband the same again.

Answer 4

Be straight and to the point...absolutely so excuses for your behavior and apologize. No beading around the bush, or "it wasn't my fault"...cause you cheated. Ask for forgiveness, give her time, and you may want to seek some help if there are continuing issues with your marriage in the next six months. One big thing like this can lead to many silly, serious little problems.

Answer 5

You don't! If the affair has ended, there's no reason to hurt your wife! Confessing your sins may make YOU fell better, but it will only crush your wife and break her heart. Wanting to "come clean" and get it off your chest is VERY selfish.
Just keep your mouth (and your zipper) shut!

Answer 6

well a lot of ppl will be telling you not to tell her. that's crap. you just need to sit down and tell her. if you hoping for some "peaceful discussion" about it....think again. get ready for fireworks.
if you don't tell her i guarantee you either she will find out on her own..then your in big trouble, OR someone else will tell her...then you really up sh!t creek!
its not going to be easy, but you got to be honest...you'd expect the same of her wouldn't you?
Now sit back and think...was cheating on her worth all this heartache and worry?
i don't suppose it was...hope you stay faithful from now on!

Answer 7

as a girlfriend who had cheated on her boyfriend, i promise you there is no good way to tell. but do it anyways. b/c if you are meant to be together, she will find a way to forgive (if you really are sorry)

my boyfriend forgave me, i didnt deserve to be forgiven but he loved me enough to forgive. now he is my husband, and i would never, NEVER do it again. but i did not love him back then and now i do. (you really come to love someone when they show you what they will stand by you thru.)

Answer 8

Tell her on Jerry Springer

Answer 9

Go ahead and castrate yourself now and then let her know...she might take it easier. Plus she will make it a lot more painful when she does it!

Answer 10

Are you married to a Computer??? because I don't see otherwise why to post such a question in this section???