What should I do I just found out for sure that I am having a baby and last night I dont know if my boyfriend was just joking but it did not sound like it he told me that he did not wount my baby he said that our baby is not his and I have not sleep with any other guy and he said its ok I have a girlfriend back at home I said what he said yeah its better to have two girlfriends then just one and he said he has babys already what should I do was he just joking or for real he has been such a jurk I think that he only wounted me for one thing and one thing only I mean I wount my baby I know that I can make it on my on but he is beening suck a jurk what should I do and DO NOT BE MEAN IN THE ANSWERS PLEASE LIKE LAST TIME.....
2006-06-23 05:00:05 · 15 answers · asked by baby_05face 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
He lives right above me but he is not from here and I fell that I still love him alot he is 22 years old.....
2006-06-23 05:12:24 · update #1
I have been with him for alittle over three months.....
2006-06-23 05:13:07 · update #2
just ask him the truth. if hes a jerk for real leave him, do it alone. you can be strong. have a happy life. good luck
2006-06-23 05:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by monkey 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think a guy would say something like that to a prego unless he was serious, and trying to get around being mean. Since it's so early in the relationship, that's probably another reason he would act that way. After 3 months I doubt he has the same emotional attachment as you, and if he has another girlfriend he probably assumes you've been seeing other guys.
Either that or he is just too scared of the idea of being a father, and said all those things just to piss you off and hurt you so you could break up with him without him breaking up with you. This way he would be left with no guilt about being a loser and not stepping up to his responsibility as a man and taking care of that baby.
One way or the other he sounds like a douche and if I were you I would really find out what his deal is, and you're probably going to have to be on your own with this baby. I really hope not, I truly hope that your bf just has the worst sense of humor in the world. If he does, and you guys stay together, break him outta that habit before your prego emotions run wild with you and he makes you cry ALL the time!
Good luck, and congratulations!
2006-06-23 12:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by Queen D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay.. my personal opinion is to sit down and tell him he needs to shut his mouth for a hot second. Explain to him that yes, you are going to have a baby.. (and if u are sure it's his) then explain that it is his,. tell him that there are paternity tests out there- he can get one if he wants..
My feeling on this- and I can't have a good grasp because I don't know what your relationship was like thus far.. but he doesn't sound like someone who cares about his offspring..
You can make it on your own- keep that in mind.. if he is a jerk about this- do you want him raising your child- a child he wanted to deny?
IF you think he could be joking- it's still a cruel thing to do to a lady who just found out she's pregnant.
Talk to him, tell him he can be apart of this.. or not.. but that child support payback is a B****!
I hope all goes well for u.
2006-06-23 12:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by Glitter Pimpstress (G.P.) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are going through that. Joking or not, its cruel. Surround yourself with friends and family who care about you and will support and leave him alone. If he wants to be apart of you and your child's life he'll have straighten up and adjust his attitude. You dont want to have to deal with two kids ie. the baby and the boyfriend. Good luck with everything and have a happy, healthy pregnancy.
2006-06-23 12:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by Giving/Seeking Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he was joking it wasn't funny and something tells me he isn't joking. You can't make him want you or the baby, so it's best to accept that right away. I would say cry but he isn't worth your tears. He will have to pay child support though, so don't worry about that. Tell your parents as soon as possible so you can get medical treatment and don't let anyone make you do somethingv you don't want to.
2006-06-23 12:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by sassssy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep something of his that will help in a future paternity test, like some of his hair from his brush or something.
and then I would break up with him and let him go., but do it in a friendly enough manner that he has no clue as to your future plans to get child support from him.
Be friendly enough that he doesn't mind keeping in touch with you so you won't have to find him later.
you and your child will be much happier and healthier in a peaceful, loving home, without strife.
2006-06-23 12:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you can handle this child on your own. Go for it. There are resourses out there to help. If he is a jerk now, just think what a jerk he will be when you are tied down to a child. You need to move on. You and that baby are what is important.
2006-06-23 12:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by noseygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pretty much a single mom and I know that you can do it by yourself. If he has a g/f at home then he is a cheater and i know cheaters can change but you are always going o have a piece stuck in your mind that he will be cheating on you too
How old are you??
2006-06-23 12:11:37 · answer #8 · answered by dede 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want people to be mean use common sense and you can figure this out on your own. Talk to your boyfriend to find out if he is telling the truth. How are we going to know when we don't know you or him. Also, it would be helpful if your question actually made sense (eg correct grammar and spelling).
2006-06-23 12:05:13 · answer #9 · answered by wildliv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's much to consider... do you want to have the baby or not; are you old enough; can you do it on your own - cause he won't be around; would you want to give you baby up for adoption and give it a chance to have a good family life; etc...
you need to talk to someone other that that crap boyfriend.
2006-06-23 12:05:50 · answer #10 · answered by gummi bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know you can make it on your own, then dump him. Even if he was just joking, some things you just don't joke about. Please visit a Planned Parenthood to discuss some affordable contraception options after you give birth so you won't bet impregnated by another jackass.
2006-06-23 12:06:34 · answer #11 · answered by tarap_mcw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋