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Question

How do I deal with my miserable and cantankerous neighbor, She fuss over everything. I cut my lawn she fuss say I making too much noise, but at 5:30am she play her radio extremely loud. At 11pm her husband drive in with his car set extremely loud. I don't know what to do except for moving to another house. We talk to everyone else in the community except her could that be the reason, I hate her personality from the first day I saw her. She calls my husband and I all sort of names yet we refuse from answering her because we know better also to prevent a fight, but I am becoming frustrated with the situation please help with your advice.

thank you

Answer 1

If she/he break the law by putting loud music at night then you can call the cops. If she is trespassing you can call the cops and that will keep her away next time. If she is bothering you you can always get a restraining order. Its very simple. That order will say that she is not allowed to speak to you.

She is just a frustrated woman, frustrated with life.
You can ignore her or if she is renting the house, talk to her landlord and have her kicked out, if he will agree with you.

yes another option, and this is what I would do first, will be to talk to her face to face and be nice and tell her: We are neighbors, I would like to have a good relations with all my neighbors and I'd like to know if something is bothering you, and lets just put the cards on the table and be authentic. Think about being friendly, and she will become friendly as well. Take a courage and remember - be friendly she will be friendly too. and talk openly.

Only after nothing works, you maybe wanna consider moving.

Answer 2

You have 2 choices: live a normal life and ignore the idiots...mow you lawn at reasonable hours regardless of what they say, etc. OR Escalate: louder, more annoying, etc. I do not suggest the Escalation route, it will only lead to some nasty things.
IF they get out of control, the police are but a call away. I have found that when neighbors get really unreasonable, threaten in any way, a call by the police to their house usually ends the problems. Good luck.

Answer 3

A person can only do and say what you allow them to.You don't need to leave because then you will have given in to her intentions to start with.Ignore what you can and if it continues you may have to get the local authorities involved and possibly the courts.If everyone in your neighborhood knows how unrealistic the neighbor is being and flat out rude then you might can join up with your neighbors and have her removed.Misery loves company so try your best not to acknowledge her or even let her know she bothers you.She will get the point sooner or later and realize that it's not fun anymore.Good luck and God bless

Answer 4

The best way to handle this, in my opinion, is to make friends with the woman. There's the old adage "kill them with kindness".

Why don't you invite her over to your home and serve cake and coffee. You can calmly discuss the situations that you've mentioned in your question and ask her how you both and resolve them.

You can further ask her, completely throwing her off guard and in affect "placing the ball firmly and squarely in her court", if you and/or your Husband have somehow unbeknown to you, have offended her and if so, that you'd like to apologize here and now and to start with a clean slate.

I'm, at the least, hopeful that she will be open and welcome to this and that you all can then enjoy a peaceful, neighborly existence. By always taking the "high road" you will be sure to be on the straight path and people will usually come around.

Have a lovely rest of the day.

Answer 5

If you own your own home and she owns her own home, there is really nothing you can do unless she harrasses or makes threats. If you're in a condo or apartment setting, you might have some recourse if she violates association rules or apartment rules.

Your best bet is to tell her via a certified letter (I know it sounds crazy to send a certified letter to your neighbor) not to knock on your door or tresspass onto your property and if she has any complaints, to take them with the police or whatever agency she feels appropiate. Also state you are no longer going to entertain any complaints or issues she might have. Inform her that if she tresspasses or harasses you by comming over, you will take appropiate action.

However, you must keep your problems to yourself at this point to. Do not approach her or her husband. Totally ignore them and their taunts. Get a restraining order if they continue to come onto your property.

Another alternative is to have your husband answer the door in his underwear and holding a gun (pointing to the floor). That should either escalate the issue or resolve it. ;)

Good Luck

Answer 6

Tough call, but I'd check for noise regulations in your city, if she gets loud, complain! The only way to 'fight' her is by using the law. It will only be unpleasant tho. Otherwise it's moving time.

Answer 7

moving is your only option, honestly. you can hope that she moves, but i doubt it. you can hope that she'll die soon, if she's old, but that would be pretty mean. you can file complaints with the police dept. about her noise violations, if any. it just sounds like she has something against you personally. i hate the play the race card, but perhaps she's racist, or maybe just jealous, or maybe just a hateful old witch.

Answer 8

i would talk to the neigborhood supervisor (if you have one) or talk to the city and file a request to have her be forced to move out of the neighborhood, you just need other people in the neighboor hood to agree. Or you could move!

Answer 9

did you forget to mention that just maybe your out on parole for killing your last annoying neighbor?

Answer 10

U SHOULD LET HER FUSS ABOUT EVERYTHING IGNORE HER CAUSE SHES NOT WAST YOUR TIME