Why is it that a husband or boyfriend can have female friends, and that's fine, we wives or girlfriends should just trust them, but we can't be trusted to have guy friends? If we do we must be FU*king them.
2006-06-23 04:51:33 · 17 answers · asked by Southern Girl/ deal with it! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There should NOT be a double standard. If that man feels that way then he is very selfish and insecure. If I can't have male friends then neither can my husband, or vise versa. We consider ourselves equal in needs, wants and desires. If that man is not considering you an equal and makes double standards as such...I would seriously get counceling or leave.
2006-06-23 04:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by m0mmatcat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't trust my husband to have tons of female friends either. I don't think there is a doulbe standard at all. I think both men and women get jealous if their spouse has a friend of the opposite sex.
2006-06-23 11:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
because all women are queens, they have morals, judgements, and are all around to nice to mess around, unless pushed very hard by some jerk of a b/f. men on the other hand are always chasing tail. I am a man and i do not trust myself amongst g/f friends, not to mention us guys like to keep what everyone else wants and get what others have
2006-06-23 12:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by coolcherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I have both been hurt by unfaithful partners and we both agreed, unless we both can trust and know them, we won't "hang" around with members of the opposite sex. The only exception is when friends are present at a public place.
Jealousy has its root when it comes to this "double standard." As for me, it depends on any relationship you may have had, and vica versa. My wife wouldn't like it if I hung around with my xgf's, and likewise.
2006-06-23 11:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there shouldnt be a double standard at all. It takes two to tangle and the truth of the matter is that you both could spend the energy on making YOUR friendship better rather than spending it with working on other friendships.
2006-06-23 12:49:54 · answer #5 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys just act that way because THEY can't be friends with girls without wanting to **** them so they put the heat on us to not have any guy friends. Men are intimidated by other men and feel like the other man will take his girl from him. They are just a bunch of whining babies and will never trust us. LOL...I know from experience.
2006-06-23 12:44:09 · answer #6 · answered by taushadoll 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
B/c that's how some of the male species is! I believe that if my mate didn't want me to have male friends and he can have female friends theres something going on with them friends see guilt comes out in so many forms and it's real obivious see we tend to blame the other for our actions feeling that we justify what we are doing by accusing the other of doing it too!
2006-06-23 12:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where have you ever heard that it's okay for a married man to have girl friends ? When my wife and I go out visiting, the women that we know, I consider to be my friends. That doesn't mean that I have any desire to see them alone.
If a man is cheating on his wife sexually, it's no different than the other way around.
2006-06-23 12:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a double standard for sure. but i think its impossible for men and women to be just friends. it seems there is always another interest or motive somewhere down the line.
2006-06-23 11:55:43 · answer #9 · answered by toni h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think thats true. I think alot of women try to keep their guy's female friends away, I have heard my guyfriends complain about that. And I had a guy friend who was extremely posessive and jealous of any male friends I had (he's been kicked to the curb). So, I don't think its a doublestandard. It goes both ways. Its only a doublestandard if you let it happen.
2006-06-23 11:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋