Me and my gf have been together for quite a while now...and we have found to be completely in love with eachother...We argue sometimes and unlike other couples that break up every time something small happens or an argument, we always make up. Our sex life is great, we never get tired of eachother, and always have so much fun together, I have been accepted as her boyfriend by every single person in her family, and everything is just great. Is it bad to think about marriage so soon in our life? Will something like this actually work? Please any suggestions will help, especially from experienced and wise adults. Thank you!
2006-06-23 04:45:00 · 19 answers · asked by bad2bone2212 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
look i think you are both really really joung, However it is possible to feel so in love and to actually be in love.. look this is what would be the best thing to do...
if you want to give her a promisse ring... this means you are actually thinking about marrying her.. but dont have a date jet..
next make sure she takes birth control... you dont... rally dont want a baby at this time of your life.. and if you reallly love her like you say you do... you will make sure she does not get preagnat ...l not now..
next continue in school both.. make sure you finish and maybe after you both graduate high school.. if you two still feel the same way you can change the promise ring for and engagement ring...
now you can set up the date...
Get a job....youre own appartment.. and then go for it....MAKE HER YOUR WIFE...
I am 21 I m now engage with my highschoo sweet heart.. and have a 5 month old baby...
listen: Our relationship is trashed...
we dated for 4 years b-4 we moved in together.. lived together for one year when i gut preagnat...(not planed) had the most horrible preagnancy.....he was and still isnt ready for all of this and his 20 now... He cheated on me 3 months agoe.. and broke my heart..
his explenation... he doenst have one.. ill tell you what i think it is...He never had the chance to sleep with other people never less to date other people because he was loyal and in love with me during our high school years.. when he decided to move in he was still madly inlove with me.. but once our boy was coming.. he freeked out.. and 6 years of relationship when down the drain in one month...when he decided to have an affeir...
He broke my heart...and now i know I made a big mistake in taking this man into my life at such and early age....
If we would of both explore b-4 we commited in such serious way.. may-b he would of eventually be ready for real comitment in the future...
DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE... LOVE HER TAKE CARE OF HER.. AND GIVE IT A TRY... BUT PLEASE IF YOU DECIDE TO TAKE HER FOR YOUR WIFE NOW... DONT HAVE ANY CHILDREN UNTILL YOU BOTH DECIDE YOU WILL NO MATTER WHAT STAY TOGETHER ...LISTEN, I ONLY WANTED WHAT WAS BEST FOR MY SON...AND I MADE THE WRONG CHOICE, WHEN CHOSINGN HIM FOR HIS FATHER...
Live get educated and have fun together.... Marrige and True comittment will come eventually...
GOOD LUCK AND BEST WISHES
2006-06-23 05:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
You should wait. If it's true love and meant to be than you can wait and you will always be together. At least wait until you are out of high school and maybe college if you can. You both still have so much growing to do and after high school you'll continue to grow and you'll get itchy to be wild for a little while. It's a lot easier to get through these stages in life without being married. You may feel like you are confident of who you are as a person and who you are as a couple, but trust me, there's still a lot you don't know about yourself.
What really matters is being together and sharing life together, the formality of being married will fall in to place when the time is right. Don't get married because you are afraid to lose something that feels really great to you right now, like I said, if you are meant to be together than you can wait.
2006-06-23 12:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by Rockwell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON"T DO IT!!!!!! I've been married for almost 10 years, and it's had its good times too, but mostly it's been hell trying to take care of the kids the bills, and all the arguing. My husband's cousin got married at 16 to a guy that she had known her entire life and sex was great, they were like best friends, everthing was great until they got married...then they were divorced by the time she hit 17. And don't think it was the parents either...they were crazy about the two of them...it just didn't work. If it's truly love, then it will wait till you are both older and have good jobs and find a good place to live and get settled financially and finish school. I was young and knew it all too, but i really wish i had listened when people told me i was too young, but i was stuuborn. Trust me when i tell you that marriage can be great but you need to be ready for it in every aspect of it, nopt just love.
2006-06-23 12:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by Southern Girl/ deal with it! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if your in love with each other then that is great, your on the right step to a successful relationship. But getting married at 16 I think is a little to young to be getting married at that age. I also think that getting married at 18 is to young I did that and it did not work out. I am now 32 and remarried to a wonderful man that I see my life with him forever just because I am older and a little more wiser then when I was 18. At 18 I did it for the same reasons as you and we did not work. so then I waited till now. Just wait there is plenty of time to think about that just keep the relationship as you both are doing and later on if you both are still together then I would consider it try college first.
2006-06-23 11:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by cici 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was 19 when she married my dad and he was 26. They've been married over 25 years. My husband and I were both 19 when we got married and we couldn't be happier. The question is, are you two mature enough to get married. Remember that marriage is a very big step. I have cousins that got married at 16. They did it for the wrong reasons and I don't believe any of them are happy. You have to marry for the correct reasons. People don't take it seriously anymore. If you chose to get married, honor your vows, and remember, God will always consider the first person you marry to be your spouse unless the marriage is annulled. You have to put that person first in everything you do and they need to do the same. It really helps to go to a counselor before saying "I do". I don't believe there is a certain age to get married but I do believe alot of people get married before they are ready. Good luck!
2006-06-23 12:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by proud_usmc_wife04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What dont you like in the way you are and u want to change it -even by getting married-? If you're happy now, in the way you are, don't try to change it even if you think that it gonna be for the better. You are really young to get married. With the marriage, sometimes you begin to take the other for granted and you stop doing your best to be with him/her. Dont change anything coz you may loose this wonderful relationship you have now. Keep trying to be happy with her and if this relatioship is really to go on with a marriege, time will tell. You're way too young to get married. Keep loving her, try every single moment to make her happy and maybe later in the future you two will get married (and then, it will be a grown up and well thought decision).... Congratulations for your great relationship and try to keep it "alive" for as longer as you can...
2006-06-23 12:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by smaragda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex at 16 is just to young in the first place, ,im 58 and was married at 16 trust me ,you need to waite, was 17 when i had my son.You may love her now but ,it's a totalty different game when you get married,fun at first then ,realitey set's in and it's not easy.You will miss out on so many thing'sYou may love several people be for you find the person who will be you'r sole mate.Injoy life ,what's the hurry?Stop playing house and in joy you r youth,it's gone quick,belive me.buy all those thing's you like, go the place's you want to see,explore you'r life be for you take a nother person in you'r life to give them all the thing's they want, you will fell traped.
2006-06-23 12:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by ms suzie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 17. I am now 25 and still married to my husband. We have been separated a number of times. If I were to do it all over again, I would wait......there is so much that you have to experience. I completely understand that you feel you are ready and that this girl is the one. Just take things slow.....marriage is a big deal.
2006-06-23 11:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by Bee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the 2 of you need to wait awhile to think about getting married. Sure the 2 of you might love eachother but, you need time to live your life. People change as they get older,because they don't really know who they are and what they want out of life until their mid 20s
2006-06-23 11:57:50 · answer #9 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to finish high school before even thinking about getting married. If things are really that great, marriage can wait and things will work out for you two.
2006-06-23 12:03:17 · answer #10 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin', finish high school, go to college, and if you still want to marry the girl, go for it. You should not even be thinking of marriage yet - you're still a baby. Live your life a little first and if all is meant to be with this girl, you will end up together!
2006-06-23 11:48:18 · answer #11 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋