2006-06-23 04:35:56 · 30 answers · asked by missthang21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok people I am not insecure or have low self esteem at all. I just cant seem to keep him out of my mind. he actually moved to another state and is visiting this weekend and of course i am going to see him..... I am so lost......... and thanks for most of yall saying negative things yall make it just so much better.
2006-06-23 04:47:14 · update #1
masochists.....with serious self esteem... issues ...
2006-06-23 04:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Fortune 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ah this question. Well, a lot of times we believe them when they say things will be different. We usually are disillusioned by something about them- looks, fake personality...but inside we are hoping for that slight chance that things will be different. The funny thing is I have been "screwed over" twice by a guy and decided to go back and its been three wonderful years with no drama...we both just needed to grow up a little more and luckily we could still do that and be together. So it does happen- but I dont know many girls who should keep trying if the guy just has no intentions of turning his life around. Also we are Christian so that helped a lot. My boyfriend changed his life for the Lord, not because I wanted him to.
2006-06-23 04:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by missesbean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This generally happen to girls with low self-esteem and likely a lack of love at home; perhaps even a abusive upbringing.
In these cases, negative attention is all they know, and they unconsciously equate it with love; and will constantly go back to it because it seems normal.
Girls like this need to start learning to love themselves and not be co-dependent on man for their feelings of affirmation.
2006-06-23 04:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because they use the good to overcome the evil. Women are sensitive and harder to let go than men, so they stick around wishing that the men will change. My guess is they see something wonderful in this man inspite of the bad things he have done, because i dont think a girl will deliberately fall in love with a guy who is bad, so i guess they are hoping to get back the qualities they fell in love with. I dont know because i do it sometimes.
2006-06-23 04:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by slimchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we make up our minds about people when we first get to know them. Un fortunately many times men and women tend to be on their very best behavior when we are in the getting to know each other stage. So....we become familiar with that person. We think we know the real person, and it is very hard for us to step back and say honestly that hey i may have been fooled by this person and i need to listen to my head, my friends, my family, or other people that honestly care for me.
We also tend to be fixers, that may also cause us to keep going back, because we think OK this time i can fix, him or her.
be honest with yourself. i see you have a wonderful child and you also need to consider how the guy treats you, and your child.
hope you find happiness it is out there when we are ready to have it. Bob
2006-06-23 06:23:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEcause they find themselves in love with that person...it really depends on what type of girl they are... My gf is like that...She tells me that if I was ever to cheat on her, that she would forgive me because she loves me sooo much and that she prefers that and her happyness rather than being hurt. I am 16 years old, and I have never screwed her over...and we are thinking about getting married if still together when 19, and we do have engagement rings from eachother...I found the one and so did she!!! YAY!
2006-06-23 04:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by bad2bone2212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because, sadly, these women don't realize that they can do better and more importantly, that they deserve better. Some will learn after they've been burned once. Others are conditioned to think this is the way men are supposed to treat women.
2006-06-23 04:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because some women have no sense of security on their own and it's safety to them, and sometimes they feel that's the only man that will want them cuz that's what the man has put into their head to keep them coming back and then again love is blind!
2006-06-23 04:41:14 · answer #8 · answered by nalerij 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because their parents keep pushing them to stay together and are totally confused about old fashioned and saddistic. (They get the two confused.)
Let's see: Fred, Carl, Jeff, nope. I only screwed up twice with each. Then I gave up and left, moved on. You only get two strikes with me boys.
2006-06-23 04:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by shehawke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know but im having the same problem and its really killing me in the inside cause I really dont know what to do about that and im only 18 read my Q and tell me what you think about it
2006-06-23 04:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they have low self-esteem and don't see that they deserve better
2006-06-23 04:39:17 · answer #11 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋