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Question

My last question wasn't very detailed. Check this out, my wife wear lingerie for me, she talks dirty to me. She does not like change. I tried it, no slack. I tried everything. Candles, food, romance, singing to her (which was the closest I got), massaging, oils, change of position, pace. Dang near everything, but she is not changing the way she wants it, and it is boring me. Now maybe that was enough detail. Ladies help? What should I do?

I have told her, in a really easy way that I want to try new things, and hell, I get the "I like it the way it is," reply. Kinda getting to be hell here.

Fugaz, tried books, she has three toys, she refuses to use, I even tried videos, she is very stuborn about this.

Answer 1

WOW! Give yourself a pat on the back you really have put alot of effort into it. Your doing way more than most guys would. Talk to her and let her know you want something different but reassure her that you want her and only her to try new things with. Find out why she's not open to new things there has to be a reason why she doesn't want to change.Good luck
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Answer 2

Do you mean that she just wants it a certain position and way all the time?
A change is then in order. Lead her on to new things but you will have to do the research. There are great books and videos on how to become a better lover, there is an instructional video called "the art of love making" and is directed to couples that want to explore things in the bedroom without being porn or too extreme.
Try to do it in different places too, it could add up to the thrill even if you are doing the same old thing, try it in your car, on the lawn at night, at your office during the weekend, something exciting that can put the spark back on.

Also, it would help to ask her what is her fantasy and that you would like to fullfill it.

There are also toys that are not to extreme if your spouse is kinda shy and stuck in routine. You can get customes and do some role play (even if you end uo doing the same old position it will add up to the excitment!), get some handcuffs (the paddeones are recomended), a whip for her to use when you are a "bad boy" (victoria's secret has a very pretty one with a feather on top), and I stick to the idea of the love dice, is fun.

Also, you can also play with food and blindfolds, the anticipation and excitement will be great. A little bit of wine can help her relax as well, aslom send the kids to the babysitter! A mom cannot relax properly knowing that the kids are in the next bedroom and that can kill the mood.

When was the last time that you guys went to a hotel together? I mean one with a jacuzzi, get some bubbly and you'll be set. Also, Bed and breakfast are relaxing and romantic too. Set a getaway for two, she will appretiate it the time aaway from the household resposabilities and relax better.

Good luck, I hope this helps

Answer 3

the only thing left, buddy!!! TELL HER!!!!! communication is so important in a marriage even the specifics and details.... even in the bedroom. come on casper be the friendly husband and just talk to her about it in the most loving way possible. tell her you need more excitement and spontantity and you want to get out of the routine!! you can do it take the first step of initiating the communication!!!

Answer 4

Sometimes you just have to take what you want. Don't talk about it or plan it, just do it. And you may need to tie her up or bound her whiney mouth in order to get the job done, too.

Answer 5

if you want your wife to change , you need to go slow and work up to it ,, make a game out of it for yourself, that is the only way i can make my wife do new things and it will work