After 3 years of dating he left me for another whom he met online moved out of state, came back to his home state with my help( i keep promises) but while he was gone i had a relationship with another because he said he wasnt comming home well i got pregnant by the new guy but now the man that i really love wants me back but i have been with the new guy for a year now and we have a beautiful little boy. I love the babys father but .... I love the other guy too what should i do should i stay where im at and raise our son together or should i move on and be with the other guy that i spent alot of time with and have a history with.he was gone from february to july. i met the babys father in april and got pregnant in june.
2006-06-23 04:15:27 · 15 answers · asked by midnight_gypsy_rose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can't imagine any man wanting you when you have thought processes and moral values as low as you do. Personally, I feel sorry for your child more than anyone.
2006-06-23 04:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to this and just want reassurance you're doing the right thing. This other guy left you after 3 years for someone else. Now things didn't turn out the way he expected and he's running back to good ol' dependable you. If you open the door and let him back in, he's surely going to wipe his feet all over you since you've played door mat with him before when you helped him come back to his home state. You moved on and found someone who loves you and you love, and this guy wants to stick around and raise the child you have together right by your side. Though you moved fast, you shouldn't give into the old guy's whims. If you do, you're just setting him up to run off and leave you again for some other random chick it won't work out with. Don't be one of those poor door mat girls. Your relationship with the old guy is a thing of the past and that's where it should stay. Good luck to you.
2006-06-23 04:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the fist left you for another woman, why would you want to go back to that? The new relationship got you a son, and as long as it is working out well, stay there. Your son's needs come first- don't forget that all children need 2 parents. His father is there now, so stay.
2006-06-23 04:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your baby father, obviously the first one was a real jerk. Probably the relationship which he had went sour so he wants you back. Tell me you have moved on with your life, because if you take him back then he will think what he did was right and he will do it again and come running right back to you. Take time out to love your child and his father, maybe god wants us to meet the wrong people sometimes so when you finally meet the right one we will know how to be grateful. Dont complicated your life, i know its hard but dont worry it will get better soon. Don't waste your time on a man who isn't willing to waste their time on you.
2006-06-23 04:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by slimchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay where you are at! You are with a man that has not met anyone online and left to go be with them! Your ex did just that, he left you for a username and seems like he got used. His bad, his fault, his loss! You have better and a wonderful son to raise... which man do you think would be a better role model out of the two.... Yeah me to, the man you are with now! He is the keeper.... now if your Man your with now... wants to share you every now and then.... well then have your cake and eat it to... find a baby sitter and have two men adorning your every whim....
2006-06-23 04:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the the father of your child and your child. Your ex treated you shabbily and will do so again given the chance. You've made a new life for yourself, got a good man beside you and a lovely child - why give all that up. For a memory? For something that happened in the past. For your child's sake, Please don't be a loser.
2006-06-23 04:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love the guy you had the child with? Then stay with him. The first guy had his shot and messed it up. He said he wouldn't be back, and probably went right to some *****. He's done, and now your son needs a mother and father - his OWN mother and father.
You KNOW what needs to be done. And it's not like you don't love the one you're with.
2006-06-23 04:20:17 · answer #7 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason this all has happened...I believe this child has something to do with letting you know his father is the man you need to settle down with...Your previous bf left you for another...that has a possibility to repeat itself and is not worth risking your current relationship over...As the song goes love the one your with..live happily ever after...blessings.
2006-06-23 04:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shoud stay with the man you are with now and take care of your family..what makes you think the ex won't meet someone else online and move again..You have a beautiful son now make the best of your family..love hurts yes but we get over it..
2006-06-23 04:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't be in this situation if he would of stayed with you before and trust me it's never great when they come back. A few months down the line you'll be wishing you stayed with your current boyfriend.
2006-06-23 04:23:14 · answer #10 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋