who could be possibly hated?

Question

people love,and everyone can be loved. people like and of course everything ccan be likeable. but who can people hate and why do they hate?

Answer 1

Hate is actually an extremely close emotion to love. It takes very little change to move from love to hate. Even, it is not the opposite of love.

Think about it, you love and you have strong emotion, increased thought time, excessive feelings, some sort of desire that overwhelms you. When you hate, these same exact feelings arise.

The spectrum of love and hate, like many other what we call 'polar opposites' is shaped more like a horseshoe, with love and hate on either end but very close to each other. This leaves apathy as the opposite to either love or hate. Apathy, the exact opposite to either of these emotions, is the lack of any emotion, feeling, or caring for any particular person or thing.

Knowing this, it is easy to see how people can hate. They hate with the same ability that they love. It sucks, but that's life.

Answer 2

sometimes, we can not explain why we hate a particular person, may be the aura or the messages which emnate from a person intuitively tell us, no, i am not going to lke this individual. and later on, no matter whatever that person does, it secretly irritates you, inexplicably. you retort, show apathy, or act callously. if that person gets the messege, he will back out, but some people continue to irritate. i think it's the person's impression which makes the difference. we like people with clean habits, and hate those who are obviously dirty.the habits, that also matters a lot. the people you hate most are the ones who never let go a chance of pointing your drawbacks in public, embarrasing you, they take pleasure in that.you may even hate your husband or wife, and wish you were separated, possible. but unfortunately, we lack the courage to tell them, i hate you, i don't want any thing to do with you! because we are afraid of the outcome, so we carry on. sometimes, the feeling could be ambivalent, we love, and hate too.haven't you seen example when deepest love has turned into hate? but difficult to turn hatred into love. the milk once gone sour, can not be normal, some thing like that. so next time you find you hate some one, accept it. we are human beings, there are very few saints born on this planet, who could love all. but one thing, too much hatred filled in our hearts is not good for our own mental health, so tone it down, avoid such people.

Answer 3

I guess people usually hate others either out of jealousy or a perceived threat. Many people seem to hate people different than themselves. I think hate can partially be attributed to what we learned as children, we tend to adopt the same points-of-view as our parents. It takes a very mature person, someone on a very different level, to be able to get past that and talk themselves into the fact that hate is wrong and we should love even our "enemies". That's a lofty goal, and most people can't do this -- but that's human nature.

Answer 4

As much as we can love, we can also hate. As in all things, there are always two sides of the coin, love and hate, positive and negative, up and down, etc. Generally, we get to hate others who we consider do us harm, directly or indirectly. It is a natural facet to being alive as we are only but humans. But the crux of the matter is not who we hate and why we hate, but what we should deal with is not to choose hate over love, because all things considered, hate can destroy us, from within.

Answer 5

They hate because that is what they are taught.

I would imagine that some 'christians' didn't grow up hating gay/lesbian people until someone else started spewing their bigtory and discrimination. So sometimes it's parents, who may share their racist/sexist/ageist attitudes, and unfortunately, sometimes it's 'religious' people.

Fortunately, many parents and religious people teach children to be loving, tolerant, and open-minded. They even teach them to respect the beliefs of others. Wouldn't this world be a much less troubled place if everyone felt this way? WWJD?

Thanks for your question.

Answer 6

I myself try to understand someone else's perspective when they do things that are immoral, wrong, hurtful-qualities that can turn to hate. I think you can hate the acts that people play (child molestors, rapists, murderers, etc.) but when you get into that persons world and see what awful things and influences that have led them to act in such ways you will find some sort of compassion for them. You will hate what they have done but not necessarily hate them. Hating someone is an easy way out. Hate what they do not who they are.

Answer 7

Hatred is the result of many things: anger, prejudice, jealousy. Since it is such a broad term that encompasses many feelings for many reasons, I believe it is safe to say it can be felt by anyone toward anyone. Mothers and children, spouses, complete strangers, have all hated.

Answer 8

Hate is a stronger word than we use it for. Dislike is a better word to use. Hate, is a strong emotion and should only be used in circumstances of extreme measures. Like I could understand is someone cruely murdered a loved one or raped them or yourself, using the word Hate.

Answer 9

None. But certain qualities are universally disliked. A person who possesses those qualities and never tries to rectify those is bound to be hated in general. e.g. Osama Bin Laden in our living memory!

Answer 10

From a sociological and psychological point of view, I think "hate" has it's origins on bigotry, ignorance and misunderstanding between human beings.

When human beings are taught to be close minded, they become unable to understand those who look or act different to them.
Much like the primitive men did in the stone age, the small-minded men of today fear what they cannot understand. We fear when we are insecure about ourselves, we fear what we think might harm us. And that fear we feel, in turn, causes discomfort, and often leads up to hate, since we start hating something simply because of the fear it has caused to us.

People that are insecure of their sexuality often end up hating gays, because they have repressed their own sexual feelings inside them, and so, they fear that gays might "corrupt their minds" or "pass their gayness to them". This comes from a sense of personal insecurity and lack of confidence in themselves.

Christians that are too ortodox or deeply-rooted in their beliefs, start fearing the consequences that would happen if they actually were wrong. Imagine what would happen if your parents had always taught you lessons based on christianism and bible quotes, and suddenly christianism was somehow proven wrong? In the mind of the person, that would feel as if, somehow, the teaching of his parents, and his entire life, was suddenly "invalidated".
The possibility of being wrong becomes so threatening that they end up shunning other ideas because they fear the consequences of accepting them. It's a defense mechanism.

In the ancient ages, people in different cultures or nations were led to believe that the other nationals were "inferior to them", "not human" or simply aberrantly different to them. This served to make them fear them, not understand them, hate them and, in cosequence, it made more easy enslaving them and invading their countries for economic motives. (the root cause of most, if not all, wars)

In the same way, most of us hate muderers, rapists, terrorists, because they harm us, and make us feel afraid and insecure. But we also hate them because we cannot understand their motives to do this. If we could dive into their minds and lives, what they had to endure in their childhood, etc... we would find the psychological motives behind their actions, and we would start to understand their aberrant points of view, even if we will never share them.
That's why the death penalty exists... because people would rather not try to understand the criminal's motives behind their actions, and instead they choose the easy way of ignoring the fact that criminals are still human beings like you or me.

Understanding others leads to realize that they are human beings as well, and that they have the same inalienable rights, dreams, passions and feelings that we do. Understanding leads to healing, to share ideas, to knowledge, to progress, and ultimately, to love.
Ignorance and bigotry lead to fear, to more ignorance, to misunderstanding and, ultimately, to personal insecurity and hate.