A 13-14 year old says her older sister who is 16-17 is never able to help her solve her problems. She has a lot of academic and social pressure that needs she can't handle on her own. Whenever she goes to her sister, her sister daydreams, stares into space, & says she isn't able help her. Her sister doesn't want to be involved in her life nor does her sister want anyone to be involved in her own life. The 12-13 yr old have a lot of friends that are 16-17 & are able to solve her problems. Worse of all, all her friends that are her age are able to help her. Her sister is the ONLY person she knows that can't help her. The 12-13 yr old says everyone that is 16-17 knows more than her 16-17 yr old sister and that there are not too many people 16-17 yrs old that is immature like her. She is wondering why.
2006-06-23 04:08:45 · 11 answers · asked by youngwoman 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She needs to relax and giver her sister a break. Her sister isn't a problem solver. Not everyone in this world is.
2006-06-23 04:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the older sister and I would have to say, I didn't give a crap about my younger sister social life and her problems growing up. I think it's just being a sister... some people are close and other are not. It's also me and my sister had complete opposite personality and even though my sister hung out with people my age- they are of her personality, not mine. So I would never hang out with the same people as my sister. I also think it's kinda how your were raised and your enviroment too... Like my younger sister never got in trouble and she always got everything faster then I did. Like I want my ear pierced but I had to wait until I was 16 after I had my done my parents where like OK, now my sister can have them done and she was only 12! So I never wanted to help my sister with anything- her life was already make so easy by my parents while I had to struggle for everything. So there could be a jealousy factor or the fact she really doesn't care because that's not where her interested lies right now.
2006-06-23 04:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong being felt by the 12 yr old.. she has not matured enough and so she has all the rights to feel that way.
My advice to the 16 yr old is that being more matured and morover having a sister who has so many problems on academic and social front, she should apply her mind and help her sister in whichever way she is possible.. i also feel that the 16 yr old to be more confident and she should understand that the advices which her sister is getting from others wont be that correct and she also should act more responsibly towards her sister
bye
2006-06-23 04:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by virgo26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's probably b/c 16-17 year old sister hasn't accepted her sister as her sister. she probably thinks that her sister is a little girl who is immature and needs to grow up. after the 12-13 year old grows a little older the 16-17 year old sister will start accepting her. it takes time but results good most of the time. that or the 16-17 year old has her own problems and just immersed into that rather than having to deal with her younger sister's problems.
2006-06-23 04:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by riri4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People mature at different "rates"; at different ages. Maybe the older sister just SEEMS more immature because the younger sister knows her so much better. Don't resent your sister, maybe she has a lot of problems that you don't know about. You be the mature one, and let her know that if she needs a friend, that you are there for her [even though you may not have any answers for her, it will mean a lot that you care].
2006-06-23 04:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by razzleberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a case of growing up for both the sisters who believe they are right and both of them are ambitious except that elder one is introvert who wants to find her answers herself and the younger one wonders why she dosnt want to help and she goes out to prove to herself that she can find a substitute for her sister
2006-06-23 04:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by burfi_aur_ladoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-02 06:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister could be immature. I think you should seek advice on important matter from your parents.
2006-06-23 04:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by JAK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont expect much from a 16-17yr.sister...wait till she finds herself ,may take awhile,in the meantime keep your friends and other family members that are eager to help.good luck.
2006-06-23 04:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
siblings don't really help each other out for some reason especially when they're 'young'.
like me (im 17), my bro who is just about a year older than me doesn't help me with anything coz that's just how he is. and vice versa, he doesn't expect me to help him. for now i seek out help from my friends.
it's probably just when you get older that your siblings would help you coz they become more mature and serious with things.
2006-06-23 04:16:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋