My fiance has found two lump under her arms in the lymph node area. Every one her mothers side of the family has either died for or has had
breast cancer. She has become secluded and withdrawn from everyone. She is pushing everyone away including her own son who is 19.
She says she doesn't want anyone to go through what she has seen other famliy memeber go through. I have told her that no matter what it is she is still the same person and I love her and so does everyone else. But she doesn't want anyone around her. Please help.
2006-06-23 04:04:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
She needs to see a Doctor ASAP. There are so many break-thru's in today's medicine world. Have her get a mammogram to find out for sure. Its better to catch it early. It could be just a cyst. But it really needs to be checked. For more information, punch in, detecting breast cancer, on your yahoo search. The more you know, the easier it will be to help her. Good Luck
2006-06-23 06:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by ASTORROSE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lump doesn't always mean cancer. You need to talk your fiancee into getting checked out by a physician as soon as possible. Maybe a needle biopsy can be done on the lumps to find out what they really are. When is the last time a mammogram was done? Anyone with a family history like your fiancee has should get a mammogram done regularly. Continue to be as loving and supportive as you can be. Hope this helps. Good luck.
2006-06-23 04:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by organic gardener 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that any of you have to go through this. And I don't blame her for being scared. It sounds like she's in denial. She's blessed to be engaged to a man like you, who loves her no matter what. Keep encouraging her to go to the doctor and have these lumps biopsied. The earlier it's caught the better. And with all the advances in breast cancer therapy she has a good chance of beating the disease. I think if you are lovingly persistent she'll eventually give in and go to the doctor. I pray that she will. God bless you all!
2006-06-23 04:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has she been to a doctor?......a lump in the lymph nodes is not always cancer...it could be something as simple as an allergy...and even if it is, now days technology is so adavanced that if you catch it early on, her chances are better than they were even five years ago....sit down and talk to her and let her know that this could be nothing, and that she shouldn't worry herself until she sees a doctor and HE tells her what is going on in her body.......my grandmother found a similar lump several years ago and it turned out to be a benign growth...let her know there is still hope and that no matter what she has people who love her and will be right there with her no matter what
2006-06-23 04:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by hot_fat_chik1982 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I hope this helps you and her son. I am 24 i have a lump in my breast. I have been to the Dr and they told me after about 6 weeks of waiting it is scar tissue. Now not saying that is what it is it is saying that go get checked for it. the faster you get results the faster you can start living again. or finding a way to get it taken out . the longer She stays in depression about it the worse the out come MAY be. Every day someone fights the battle and WINS. don't give up before you even know what the problem is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please go see a Dr.
2006-06-23 04:26:07 · answer #5 · answered by CHELLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family has a history of breast cancer, my mother died from it and my sister has just completed chemo.
All you can do is keep encouraging her with all the love you have. Also will say a prayer that things go well for you both.
2006-06-23 04:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by bluebell1us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are all types of support groups for people to deal with cancer. Contact your local American Cancer Society Branch, and they can point you in the direction of support groups. It's best she shares her feelings with those who are going through the same thing she is.
2006-06-23 04:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by JayhawkC04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, anyone in that situation feels that way, its just that you have to encourage her to be the same as she was before the diagnosis. try to make her feel special, treat her, go out, spend time together, and with that she might realize the importance of her family.
maybe she's just pre-occupied with all the bad experiences she had with her relative's condition. i know she might feel useless becuase of her current condition, but that is the reason you're there. you should make her feel important. make her feel like she doesn't have that illness - just like a regular person.
believe me, it works. just put God on the center of your relationship and your lives, and everything will be put into place.
2006-06-23 04:15:45 · answer #8 · answered by chiikibabe16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋