I am so in love with him, but after he new he is going to overseas next Fall, he has changed so much.We were doing great, but now he don't talk to me much, and what makes me so sad is that he decided to quit the relation because he say he don't want me to be worry for him all the time and that I may find some one else while he is gone for one year. Makes me feel like he never loved me....
2006-06-23 04:01:43 · 12 answers · asked by me at yahoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hello, Me! I can see you really have your heart torn out. My advice to you is to just go on with your life in the most normal way possible, and not dwell on either moving on, or staying. It does seem like he's telling you in not so many ways he's cutting you loose, however he may just decide to change his mind, so don't burn those bridges just yet. While keeping things light and breezy, still try to let him know you still care and the door will still be open. Then go on with business as usual, these things have a way of working themselves out when we get out of the way. I know it's not easy sweetie. Take it from an older (48) woman, I messed up alot of opportunities by trying to hold on too tight, and over the years I've been surprised how much a guy can decide he cares when he's not so sure if you still do. Say a prayer, and be brave! Good luck! :)
2006-06-23 04:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by Blue_eyed_Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that he is scared that you might leave him for another guy while he is away...he is just trying not to get hurt...Have you ever seen the movie Jarhead? Well its kinda like that but he broke up with you and the guy in the movie didnt. He is just scared that you might leave him for another guy, because it is very common. He doesnt want to get hurt and he also doesnt want you to get hurt. You should just reassure your love to him, write him often, send him pictures...dont give him a reason to doubt what you are doing back home, basically keep in touch with him often. Do things that will show him that you really love him deeply and you would do anything for him, even if it consists of you getting up, buying a phone card, and researching where he's at on the internet, you know...things like that, things that will make him feel loved. Keep trying, tell him you love him and that he's your one. Hmmm...sounds like a very nice guy...in a totally ungay way... : )
2006-06-23 11:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by bad2bone2212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened when I was dating a Marine who went to Iraq. We were together 4 years and he broke up with me right before he left because he didn't want to tie me down while he was away. I pursued and talked to him about it and finally he confessed that HE was scared and worried that he wouldn't make it back alive and he didn't want me to be scared, too. I explained to him that whether we were together or not, I would still worry about him and I'd rather be with him and talk to him on the phone and through email and letters than not at all. Hearing his voice or getting a letter from him eased my worries, if I had never gotten to contact him I would've been worried sick. So, talk to this guy and see if he can explain his actions.
2006-06-23 11:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say he doesn't care for you but he is trying to avoid a broken heart if he should go off to overseas and his gf is unfaithful to him..I'd be friends and if your thee one...prove it while he is away...be his best friend, stay in contact and support his decision...I am sure he will change his mind when he comes back...its a tough decision he is making...and with our military conflict situation he just may be trying to save you some heart ache too.
2006-06-23 11:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, girl. He's trying to tell you that he doesn't want to be with you anymore. You deserve to be happy, you deserve to be with someone who wants you, too. Maybe he's just trying to do the "right" thing for you both, by letting you down gently. I know that you hurt now, and I'm sorry. Accept the breakup, move on, and you'll be even happier in the future--you'll see.
2006-06-23 11:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by razzleberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is scared i believe he does love you its just with the way wars are these days( i assume thats why he is leaving) he says he wants you to move on but in his heart of hearts he really is going to miss you terribly send letters atleast ask him to write if he can. be his friend for now and see what happens if you happen to find someone else then it wasnt meant to be he just wants you to be happy in his absence. but absence makes the heart grow fonder.
2006-06-23 11:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by midnight_gypsy_rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you 've got stuck in a bad situation.
It's so clearly that he don't want to be yours anymore.
Let's him go his path and find another man better than.
I think he was right when say that he did not want you to be worried about him all the time.
Give up your love. Better for all you
2006-06-23 11:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by nguyen Lam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just give up because thats practically what he is telling you to do.maybe he knows he is going to be getting into trouble overseas and he doesnt want you involved in it.
2006-06-23 11:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by jillian♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh he loves you more than you realize,if he is willing to let you go to keep you from getting hurt you better hang on tight to this one.not many men left who cares about your feelings.
2006-06-23 11:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on
2006-06-23 12:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by bear54 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋