I am so in love with him, but after he new he is going to overseas next Fall, he has changed so much.We were doing great, but now he don't talk to me much, and what makes me so sad is that he decided to quit the relashion because he say he don't want me to be worry for him all the time and that I may find some one else while he is gone for one year. Makes me feel like he never loved me....
2006-06-23 04:00:59 · 32 answers · asked by me at yahoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are truly in love with him and you have such a wonderful relationship the why aren't you being honest with each other?To have a relationship with someone requires open communication.He may love you with all his heart and may just be waiting to hear you say "I don't care how far you are from me or how long,I will always be here waiting for you and looking forward to spending the rest of my life with you."Or, he could be trying to protect you from getting hurt-for example-What if something happen to him or what if his orders changed and it was gonna be that much longer or possibly he may feel he is holding you back from having a relationship with someone who can be here for you.There are hundreds of what ifs'and maybes' but the best thing is to sit down and talk until you both are secure and confident with whatever you choose to do.And by the way -if he has loved you up to the point before he found out he was going overseas,he still does.Love doesn't have an on and off switch.good luck and God bless-
2006-06-23 04:20:00 · answer #1 · answered by crazy_over_lighthouses 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, sorry to be honest. But from what he is telling you, he really doesn't love you that much. If we, men, love a girl deeply, we don't go with those excuses. We would tell our girl that we're gonna do everything we can to keep the relationship, which probably will not work in the end, but at least we show how much we want the relationship! And, please, one year is not that much!
He is more interested in what he is going to do overseas and is the perfect excuse to get out of the relationship. His "concern" about you worrying for him all the time as the reason to cut the ties makes me laugh, it is just a very polite way to end the relation.
I'm not meaning that he doesn't love you, I'm pretty sure he does and that he likes you, but not as much as to put you before "his things".
Just let him go, as painful as it may be, but you're just going to suffer and waste your time trying to get him. He already made it clear (in a subtle way) that he doesn't want to continue anymore. And if you keep trying and asking why, he'll just get more tired about the relationship. Let him go, and thus, he may come back if he really loves you.
2006-06-23 04:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying WHAT? He quit the relationship. Thats it. You can work on it all you want, but on his end, this relationshp is over. Sure, someday he might realize what a gigantic mistake he made and come back and sweep you off your feet and you two will live happily ever after. But in the mean time, instead of "worrying" about a man who doesn't want you to worry- just go have fun, meet new people, if you're single when he comes back than you are- if you're not- than you wouldn't have sat around wasting your life away for a man who made the choice to leave you.
2006-06-23 04:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.. dont be so low!! Probably, he wants to make it easier for the both of you'll. I have been tgrough the same thing, and we did stop iot before he moved away,. Trust me, its for the better. Cuz othewise we are so attched and so into each other and so used to each other, that it is reallllly very difficult to do anything or cioncentrate on anything else. And its just a yr, right?? And you will obviously be in contasct with him. So youll can be back once hes back.. Give it a break.,.. Give it sometime.. And if he loves you, youll will be back together ince hes back after ayr. If youll dont get back, probably it was never meant to be. Give it a chance
Good luck!
2006-06-23 04:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. Sounds like he's done. I guess you need to decided if he's seriously done or if he's trying to make it easy for you to move on. Does he have the kind of love for you that will last while you're apart? Do you think you'll have his heart when he returns? If not. . .it's over.
The really sad thing is, you've poured your heart into this relationship and now poof. . .it's just gone. The feelings don't go away so easily. This is why I believe people shouldn't date till they're ready for marriage. Maybe you were, but apparently he isn't. Please give yourself time to heal, lean on God and learn who He has for you before you give your heart away so that it won't be trampled again.
2006-06-23 04:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's already told you to move on. He probably loved you. But, this way he is saving both of you the hurt of finding out one of you cheated on the other while you were apart. It's better to break it off this way now.
If he lets you, you can still write to him (just keep in contact, nothing romantic). He'll change in a year and so will you. Then you can see what happens when he gets back.
2006-06-23 04:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats sad, i know this sounds harsh what he said to you but to me it sounds as if he cares about you. I know if my boyfriend went away over seas i would worry the whole time he was gone.I think you should just sit him down and tell him that you are not giving up on the relationship, and that you will wait for him until he comes back, tell him how much you love him and that no one else could fill that void of him.
2006-06-23 04:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he loved you at some point. Dont worry about that one girl.
Hes obviously feeling guilty about leaving you and only has your best interests at heart. And hes right. If you carry on the relationship till the last minute, youll feel worse than you will when he leaves you and youre with another. Move on. If he is your soul mate, youll find each other again on day...
2006-06-23 04:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by frostie_icicle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can say is that he is trying to spare you the pain. I would (no matter how much it hurts)let him go. Maybe in a year things will be different and you will start on with where you left off. Good Luck!
Just try and keep in touch with him as a friend while he's gone.
2006-06-23 04:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by Loo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on. If after the year your feelings are the same about him, then see where it goes. Sounds like he may be the one to find or have found someone new. Don't push the issue, or it might pull you two farther apart. Move on and see what happens. Good luck.
2006-06-23 04:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋