i see my parents arguing alot and since my father has this traditonal idea that he will never take crap from women, we see things like my mother usually starts wining all of a sudden and blaming father but he gets mad and starts talking loud and saying things like NOBODY is going to fu**ing change me. well anyways, i dn't like all that arguing they do and in my marriage i wouldn't like it, i would like peace and love. Is it possible? I don't know, but i always think that i would do all my best to be good to the relationship, even help around the house. Im a quiet person and i do'nt like fights.. so count on me, i would not start fights, and i would not disrespect my woman.. but what if the girl is the kind that likes to complain,, and i mean not just once, but like my mother keep going and going. Well anyways, if i marry i will keep my word and contribute to a good marriage, but i don't know if my partner would and that would mess everything up. I've never had a gf, just hope forGood
2006-06-23 03:33:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's no such thing as not aguring/fighting in a marriage or any relationship for that matter. Anytime you have 2 people with 2 distinct personalities, interests and beliefs, there will be arguments. The thing is to learn to fight fair. In the heat of the argument, don't go below the belt. Don't insult or disrespect the other person. And hardest of all, try to listen to what the other person is saying. If you can learn to do that, then you're on your way to a healthy relationship.
2006-06-23 03:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by married2004 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Been married for 12 years. We hardly ever fought. We hardly ever talked to each other. I would rather fight than have silence. You see disagreements are going to happen. It's not a contest to see who wins, but a heated discussion that needs to be resolved. I too do not like to fight or confrontation. Sometime you have to speak you mind though. That keeps you from developing an attitude which can be worse that a fight. Confrontations will happen, they will turn into fights, there should not be a winner, there should be a solution to the problem. The thing about fights is afterwords, you should be able to connect and become closer. The biggest benefit is the make-up sex, it's almost worth the fight to begin with.
2006-06-23 04:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is work. It needs respect of someone views, even if you don't agree. There will be an argument or two but with respect you have to "fight fair".That means that you do not get defencive, or blame, and LISTEN to each other.
If your parents are fighting, it is not your fault. They never learned anything different. You have a chance to change things.
2006-06-23 04:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALL couples fight occasionally, but the key is to work it out as soon as possible. The longer you let problems stew, the bigger they grow. If they each treat the other with respect, the fights will be few and far between. Good luck.
2006-06-23 03:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard that arguing is actually healthy fir the relationship.
2006-06-23 03:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by blueyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋