Why do a lot of other teenage girls stare at me in a mean way?

Question

AM I UGLY?! I don't know... but whenever I see a girl my age, usually preppy, she looks at me like "WTF" and I don't know why.. I don't dress preppy.. and I think I'm kind of ugly, but I don't know. My friends say I'm beautiful, but other people say I'm ugly. I'm 14 years old. I'm not fat or anything.. and I don't have A LOT of zits.. just like 3 of them. Is it possible for somebody to have a clear, UGLY face? Can somebody just be UGLY when they're trying to be pretty? I don't have glasses or anything.. and a lot of my friends say I look similar to Shakira.. I'm so confused! Half the people I know say I'm beautiful, and the other half says I'm ugly!! I don't wanna be ugly!

Answer 1

Seriously, they are probably just jealous. You probably ARE beautiful, and these preppy girls cant stand that you look better than them, so they give you the 'look'. Dont let them bother you. If they dont like you, thats THEIR problem.

Answer 2

The chances of seeing a person who actually has ugly features is very rare. For the most part ugly or pretty is decided by looking at the overall appearance of a person, not zooming in on their face or any other specific part. It's kind of like a picture of a bunch of girls all dressed cute. When a guy sees that picture instantly he thinks, "hot girls" without actually looking at any of them. I believe it is the same with an individual, not a specific feature but an overall appearance. Dress presentably, fix your hair, if you like makeup, wear it. If that's not you, don't. Most of all, smile and be nice to people-that is where the rubber meets the road. Now, all of that stated...probably people staring at you has nothing to do with your appearance. You may be a little self-conscious and NOTICE everyone who happens to look at you. Or maybe there is something attractive about you that people can't quite put their finger on it. So to sum it up... there aren't many ugly people and you are probably not one. Anyway, hope this helps.

Answer 3

if you think that you are beautiful then that is all that counts. And also, you could be fat, wear glasses, not preppy and have a few zits these things do not determine that you are ugly. Being comfortable about who you are is important. Do not listen to people who try to bring you down, they do not count, they are zeros not a blip on your radar of people should even recognize. Remember there are no ugly people only ugly attitudes.

Answer 4

To some people you might be beautiful and to some you are ugly. No one has the same taste or the same definition of what is ugly. Dont worry about it. if someone thinks you are ugly, just think of it as, well, Im just not their type, think about it, arent there some guys that your friends might think are cute and you just really dont? I have heard the same thing, what you need to do is gravitate toward the people that think you are beautiful. and dont worry about the other ones. you need to go to the mirror right now and look at yourself, and repeat after me. I AM beautiful. And believe it! thats all that matters!

Answer 5

Sweetie, there's always gonna be someone who needs to look down on others to make themselves feel better. They may feel they look better because of their skin color, which is sad for them, not you. They may just be in a 'click' that needs to put itself up high by stepping on other people. You don't need to TRY to be pretty. You are who you are, and trying to reach for something that you don't even understand really, is useless. Accept that zits happen, that you probably are quite pretty, and that some people get jealous even if they are also pretty. Asking a lot of people's opinions just shows your insecurities about yourself and unfortunately, for a lot of kids, it's a chance to try to make you feel badly about yourself, therefore giving them the chance, since you asked, to say you're ugly, perhaps even thinking that since you aren't ugly that you're fishing for compliments and are therefore asking for trouble. So. My advice? Just don't worry as much aloud. I know you're going to a lot for a while, you're fourteen and everything's changing like mad in your body. I remember even staring at my eyes in the mirror watching them change colors and wondering if that was a good thing or not. It apparently was a good thing ;). UGLY is as UGLY does, so don't worry about the mean people, stop asking about your looks in such a fashion--is my hair okay and things are fine to ask, but don't let yourself get so caught up in how you look that it's all you can think about, because people and looks change anyway, and you will gain confidence as you grow older. Right now, accept that you're pretty, maybe even beautiful, and then put it out of your mind as much as possible and just concentrate on who you are and who you want to be on the inside and in the future and enjoy your true friends--forget the B***** who say you're ugly. When you think about it---why would anyone say such a thing in the first place? It's just mean. At least you know what it feels like and know not to treat others that way. If you look similar to shakira now, you're doin' okay, don't ya think? Don't get a big head, just be glad. --People who, for whatever unfortunate reason, are truly "ugly" in the asthetic sense know that they are and would never ask. That's just that. Let it teach you to judge from the inside out, sugar, not the other way around.
-A.

Answer 6

They are probably jealous, that you are beautiful, and that you can not see it. When people stare at you, and keep staring, either they like what the see or the are amazed of what they see. If I was you I would not worry about what other people think or say and love your self with all your heart. The success to a beautiful person in and out is high esteem and love for self and others.

Answer 7

Teenage girls, a lot of them, are insecure, and it makes them very mean. And some of the most interesting faces often make people have very different reactions. I remember being you once (except for the awesome bit about looking like Shakira, no such luck for me), and I grew up pretty awesome (I'm not the only one to think so).
Teenage girls that try too hard occasionally get a "WTF" expression permanently frozen on their face, so don't take it too personally.

Answer 8

Maybe they are jealous, maybe it is how you represent yourself and you intimidate them. It sounds like you want all of us to say you are pretty because you are claiming to look like a celebrity. The truth is some people will find you beautiful and others won't. No matter who you are. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. One of the most attractive characteristics is confidence. Stop worrying about everyone else.

Answer 9

those people are probbaly just jealous of what you look like. go of what your friends say, that your beautiful because they know you more.don't go by what the others say that your ugly just remember that your beautiful and feel confident in yourself. don't listen 2 those jealous girls who think that there preppy.

Answer 10

Maybe the girls are jealous of you! If your friends tell you your not ugly then I wouldn't worry about it. There are just really jealous people out there that wish they looked like something else. Especially girls your age! If your not dressing like a hoochie, and letting body parts hang out all over the place I wouldn't worry about it! If you are dressing like a hoochie, and letting things hang out then rethink what your doing!