My future husband and I have not had sex before. God has encouraged us to save ourselves for each other and I can hardly wait. I have seen him in his swimwear and he looks very big. My Mom advised me not to use tampons until after we were married.
Can you tell me what to expect on our wedding night and what I should be doing to hin to make it as memorable as possible? I do love him so much.
2006-06-23 03:22:16 · 12 answers · asked by Helping Hand 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Like others have said, it's not going to be comfortable at all the first time. TV and the media have made things out to be that your first time is going to be this magical time and you'll orgasm. The truth is that most girls don't orgasm during sex for the first few times. Don't be discouraged though, because as you get to know each others bodies and what feels good to both of you, you will get better at it. I admire what you guys did. Good luck!!!
2006-06-23 03:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by kika 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations!! and what you two are doing is very admirable. I will not lie it is going to be very uncomfortable the first couple of times, but you two have your whole lives to enjoy it being intimate. It will be memorable because of that. Using tampons is not going to matter either way, on that issue do what you feel comfortable with. It sounds like you two are truly one of those couples that others really look up to. It gets a lot better in time so do not be discouraged if the first time is not as "mind blowing" as you see on television and hear about from other people.
2006-06-23 03:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by jessica 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That first time will probably be a very uncomfortable one, because it is the first time for you both and youll be nervous. But dont worry, take things slow and do things that make you two feel comfortable. Dont rush into things.
And the tampon thing has nothing to do with loosing your virginity. So tell your mom that that is not correct.
2006-06-23 03:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by boricua_chick_21 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Play some soft music in the background to get in the mood. Have tons of flowers all over the room and make it an aromatic memory by have nice scented candles and poupourri around. 50 years from now both your memories will be colored with the wonderful aromas of that special night. The rest, just let it come naturally.
2006-06-23 03:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Believe me you're going to ask "what the heck was that?" It will be short and satisfying for him, but probably just a little discomfort for you. But that's okay, it will only get better. Stay relaxed and have him be gentle (especially if it is big) I find it hurts less if the woman is on top and very lubricated. Good luck!
2006-06-23 03:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by morgan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing would say more to prove you love him other than a whole year paid in full -cable TV-and the kickker would be--- a big screen TV (61"+)in the master bedroom.Now as far as him being a pretty big old boy-you can allways place that TV up high enuff for him to see over while he is laying flat on his back in bed.Now as far as the advice from your Mom-not using them sounds a little messy-use the tampons-remember back in Moms day they used fresh picked cotton
2006-06-23 03:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. John Hook 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
expect that when you make love for the first time it will be 2 minutes and you'll have to practice alot afterward. It will take time to connect sexually since you haven't yet, it took me 5 months with my man and now we know what each other likes and doesn't like and we rock in the sak.
2006-06-23 03:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u love him and he loves u, there's no problem; express all your love him, and he the same. Usually u kiss and caress him, and he too. It will be the same, all over the body, one eachother. A million of kisses and caresses. Without thinking about it, u and him will have the desire, and yours bodies talk through the body language: u'll have a sexual relations without mind it.
Yours bodies will be one flesh and one spirit only (Paul to Corinthians). Bye. Paul Head from Rome.
2006-06-23 04:02:35 · answer #8 · answered by paolotestart 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first time may be painful but it gets better after that. You can get some books on the subject - don't rent hardcore movies as they are mostly unrealistic.
2006-06-23 03:28:43 · answer #9 · answered by smgray99 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
what ever feels good is all you need to do. it takes years to perfect sex. dont expect fireworks and bells and whistles to happen every time....he will need to learn what pleases you, you will need to learn what pleases him...dont be afraid to ask each other, thats the only way to learn. Congradulations and Good Luck!!
2006-06-23 03:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by alex 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋