Me and my man have been together for almost 3 years, and we have talked about marriage and we always talk about living together, and kids names.. yada yada, but what are some more clue I can give him in order for him to pop the question? Yea..I'm going to get a lot of people say "wait until the time is right," but it feels right to me a lot of times...why not to him?
2006-06-23 03:18:53 · 11 answers · asked by A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hint, hint, hint.... very nice to hear, but, WHERE IS THE RING??? Hear ya!!!!
Yeah, everybody says to be patient, but would you like to wait another 6 years and become one of those decade long girlfrieds and then someone comes about and they get married within 3 months! Don't let that happen to you. You are worth to be a bride and he is dragging his feet. Perhaps he is waiting to be financially stable before proposing, as he knows that you are worth a lot and he might be affraid that he won't be able to provide aduqatly for you. You need to let him know that you don't need a million dollars to get married and that you can provide income to the household too.
Unfortunatly, nagging won't help the situation but you can set the conversation in a casual manner. Next time that you "talk" about it, just tell him "well, you haven't proposed yet" or 'I don't have a ring yet" that type of conversation will prompt him that you are ready to take the next step without being to evident or pushy. Being overly anxious about this may scare him away, but you have already dicussed thigs for the future and you both know where you are heading, this type of talk woud come natural. Just don't be negative and bossy because that might turned him off, It's up to him now, you have to reassure him that you are the right person for him.
Now, after years of dating, you should be confident enough to tell him that after 3 years into the relationship, you would like to know if it's time to get settled or move on.
Good luck
2006-06-23 03:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and him are two different people. That's not bad - it's just a fact. While I'm sure you're both very much in love with one another... You're obviously in a rush. Why? Relax, don't nag him about it, or even make subtle gestures that you're ready. He already knows! Just keep doing what you're doing. I know you didn't want to hear it, but the truth is, once you simply put it on your back burner, chances are, he'll discover the perfect way to ask, set the time, the place, have the ring, etc... And give you a night to remember forever when he does ask you! And you'll feel equally good about it when it does happen if it happens today or 6 months from now, or even 2 years from now. The bottom line is, if it's meant to be, it WILL happen. Imagine someday having grand children and being able to tell them such a wonderful story about you and their grandpa! Patience... It's well worth the wait. :) Good luck!
2006-06-23 10:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by loving father 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, do NOT ask him. I hate to be old fashioned but you should just wait till the end of the year and if he hasn't asked by then, you can be subtle in mentioning how you'd like to get married within whatever time frame. He should get the hint then. Besides you don't know when he's planning on asking you.
2006-06-23 10:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by Candy Cane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem, but I found out he was scared that he couldn't provide for me and my son. Once he got over that he proposed and we have been married for almost 4 years now.
2006-06-23 10:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by tracystokes3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point to the ringfinger on your left hand and ask him "Why is this finger still naked?"
2006-06-23 10:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by paul m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him
2006-06-23 10:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by Binky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
got the same problem - maybe we should just ask them! and cope with the answer they give us....
2006-06-23 10:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by 42 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems to me like you need some commitment from him - ask him!!!!
2006-06-23 10:23:00 · answer #8 · answered by kass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him?
2006-06-23 10:21:40 · answer #9 · answered by married2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it
2006-06-23 10:21:21 · answer #10 · answered by meredith o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋