I've been off and on with a guy for 5 years. We only see each other on Saturday due to scheduling conflicts. We have been fighting alot lately: he's in poor health and I've been having problems with conflicts in other areas of my life. He has pulled back emotionally, and I'm desperate for his time and attention. What can I possibly do to save my relationship?
2006-06-23 03:15:02 · 9 answers · asked by faire_raven 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
....Off.....On........5 years....hardly see each other,but fight when you do.......You said ( I'm desperate for his TIME and ATTENTION.)...and in the same question you used the word "conflicts" to describe scheduling meetings. He's "pulled back".........the last word you said, is the answer " relationship" there isn't any. Don't hang on....Move on. Good Luck.
2006-06-23 06:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
STOP
DECIDE WHAT IS IMPORTANT TO YOU
GIVE HIM THE SUPPORT HE NEEDS
ASK FOR THE SUPPORT YOU NEED
OK, you need to take stock of what is going on and rationalise things a little. If his health is not good he is probably very stressed. You both may be taking out problems from different areas on each other. Be aware that you are doing this and try to stop. Be aware that he may be doing this and try not to take things to personally. Hopefully his poor health will be a short term issue and you can both start to work on your relationship together.
2006-06-23 03:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by kllr.queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like there's much there. One day a week doesn't a relationship make nor does him not being emotionally available for you or you being desperate. Cut your loses on this one & breathe.
2006-06-23 03:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by thaliea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the whole on-again/off-again relationship thing. Can't you see that it is NOT working? If you haven't gotten it right yet in 5 years, maybe its time to call it quits and move forward.
2006-06-23 04:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only one day a week is tough even for a couple of healthy people. sorry to say, but you might just want to cut this off and start again when your own issues are settled with someone else, good luck!
2006-06-23 03:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you have to be the one to save it? You are supposed to be in this TOGETHER. I would sit him down and tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same way
2006-06-23 03:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself if its still worth saving? then if yes, try to talk to him.. compromise.. know what each of you really wants.. then decide from there on. goodluck!
2006-06-23 03:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by sarah l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw around on him and if hes interested he'll come back to bang you.
2006-06-23 03:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by goobledork 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can save this one.
2006-06-23 03:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by Binky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋