If 2 gay guys raise a child how should he refer to his parents, as mom or dad?

Question

This is a weird question isnt it? It came to me when it was fathers day and i though about it. Like if its Mothers day should hes family celebrate?

Answer 1

doesn't this just epitomize the confusing and distraught culture that we have created by embracing everyones `rights' to do whatever makes them `happy'.

Answer 2

All this is just what I think would be best for the child, I am not a professional in counseling or psychology. A couple may want to see a psychologist, or counselor, that they trust on the matter.
Depends on if one of the parents was introduced later in life, and how late they were introduced. If that is the case, then Dad, Daddy, or some other name for the 1st man. And for the second, if it was earlier in life like in the first 5 years or less, then a different word for dad should be used, Like if the First is called Daddy, the other should be Dad.
If it's after five years though, I think it would be a little late for the child to really think of the second man as a father, so it might be better if the child called the second man by his name, or a playful derivative of it. I don't think calling the second man Uncle would be productive, as later things might get confusing with the child's friends, as they might think "Dad" and "Uncle Mike" are brothers, as well as at a younger age the child might make the mistake or some other. And if both Fathers want to be called Dad, Daddy, or even Father, then the child could call them Dad Mike and Dad John, Daddy Mike and Daddy John, or Father Mike and Father John.
However, if the kid is older when the second man is introduced (around 10 + would probably be a good standard age), the kid might already have a name they would like to call the second man. If the second man is not comfortable with what he is being called, then they should speak privately, or with the first parent along, with the child about it in a calm manner. No angry voice. That'll just make the child scared.

Answer 3

One could be called dad and the other pop. As for celebrating mothers day that would be up to the dads. Does one do mostly the traditional female things and the other mostly the traditional male things for the child? Then celebrate both days, if it is equally done then just celebrate fathers day.

Answer 4

well sure why not. I celebrate my mom on mother's day and father's day and she's not a lesbian. I dont think the sexual orientation matters much or the gender really for that matter. And since they are both males i guess dad would be more suitable. Whatever is comfortable for the kid. He might not like calling a male, "mom".

Answer 5

There's no need for the child to know who has to play the mom'role or dad's role. Both call dad and it's okay. The child won't be disturbed if people around him don't mok him. Since it's the case, children have to grow 'til teenagers 17 years old to be "proud" of what they have. Well, actually, the parents may choose : the most girly one be the girl one and the most masculine one the dad... but i find this stupid to refer this to mom or dad since they are two men...

Answer 6

okay, that's not the healthiest environment for a child to be in and when he/she becomes a teenager there's bound to be conflict. So I would say it's up to the child. I would recommend dad 'a' and dad 'b'. where 'a' and 'b' are your names. There should be no gender confusion passed onto the child.

In accordance with mothers day. I really hope he/she has a mother and was not cloned. So he/she should phone his/her mother and celebrate the day with her. Fathers day could be twice the party... :)

Answer 7

Dad and Dad, or daddy and daddy or Father and Father. I know a boy who calls them Dad and Daddy. They celebrate Father's Day mostly, and they celebrate Mother's day for his grandma's. They also have a special day for them to celebrate their family and that is the day they adopted him. It's really like an extra Birthday for him.

Answer 8

Parents

Answer 9

They are both Dad. Just celebrate Father's Day.

Answer 10

I've known of this situation and the little girl they were raising called one man Daddy and the other man Pop.

If no mother is in the picture why celebrate Mother's Day?

Answer 11

actually ,Ive seen a gay family and the daughter called the maternal mother Mom and the life partner by name. And no matter if its 2 gay men or 2 gay women you still only have one mom and one dad.