im 27 shes 26 we have been married for 6 years have 2 lovely kids.we been together for 9 years.she says she likes the touch of another man on her not so much the sex(she curious).she was a virgin and i was not.i always figured she would get curious since im the only man she slept with.im hurt but i understand too.after 9 years of her being faithful and honest i think maybe she deserves this as sort of a gift cause our anniversary(6 years married) just passed.she really wants to do it as long as im ok wit it.im not really cool with lending my wife to another man but i dont want her to fool around behind my back.she has the guy she wants to sleeep with and he's ready.so do you folks out there think i should tell my wife ahe's crazy if she thinks i'll let her do it,or should i just go with the flow.she used to be real heavy and now she losing so much weight and her confidence is booming so i know she is just dying to get started.what do you think world?
2006-06-23 02:48:12 · 19 answers · asked by MR. IM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That will do absolutely nothing but ruin your marriage. Don't do it. Tell her how you feel. Let her know that if she cheats on you, that you will not stay there. You have to be firm. Put a stop to it before it happens. If you let it happen, your marrriage is as good as over. You will resent her and what she did.
2006-06-23 02:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by krisaquarius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would she be curious about sleeping with someone else if she's satisfide where she is?
First of all, definitely do not let her belive that it's okay with you in any way.
Second, it seems weird that she came to you about it. Maybe she needs some reassurance of your desire for her. Either way, I don't think it's too late. If she's talking with you about it, it means she cares what you think. I'd say sit down and talk with her about what's really going on.
Don't be a pushover and try to do anything to please her and also don't make more ultimatums than you're willing to carry through with. Just listen to her and try to understand what you can do to help her feel more satisfied. In the end, though, it's really her struggle.
Good luck and I hope it all turns out alright!
2006-06-23 03:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by Evelyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is nice that you are even considering it because of the fact you are the only man she has know of inside of her. Maybe it wouldn't be so bad if you let her venture out because she might realize that she is better off with you. So I hope you make the right decision for the both of you. Well do you know the guy who she would sleep with? Make sure u let him know it's a on time thing and that's it but then you have to worry about other men and if she would start cheating.
2006-06-23 03:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by geminigurl2404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately when people get married so young, they go through a lot of changes that affect a relationship greatly. This is because they don't know how to incorporate those changes into a relationship. Therefore your wife needs validation from other men. if you don't want your relationship destroyed, simply let her know that she looks great now that she's lost a lot of weight but that there are boundaries within the relationship and faithfulness is one of them. going with the flow is your way of staying in denial and not coping. It will only resurface at a later time and with much more intensity.
Create boundaries with your wife and let her know that you expect her to live within those boundaries, as you do.
2006-06-23 02:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i disagreee...i think u should let her! look at it this way, if u dont let her... her curiosity becomes stronger.. and next minute.. she is having many affairs behind ure back! if the guy is sorted, and is ready, and it means nothing to all parties.. why not..? it wont harm ure marriage if there is no other agenda on eitherof their heads! she's been faithful for so long to u, she lost her virginity with u..... i dont think it will destroy ure marriage.. what will destory ure marriage is when her curoisty grows to her having the courage to have an affiar.. u would only be pushing her to become an untrustworthy, lying and decietful wife! if it is strictly one off, no agenda, no personal feelings between them, let her!
2006-06-23 03:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're in trouble man. Better get started making her feel sexy and fulfilled at home. But allowing this, as open minded as I am, is not going to be a good thing if you are not into it.
2006-06-23 02:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by hiddenhotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're nuts if you say Ok go ahead and do another guy! And what's wrong with her to say something like that to her husband. And if she really loved you and respected you there's no way she would even think about saying that. Kick her to the curb!
2006-06-23 03:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by honeybaby729 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are crazy if you let it happen. If she does it once she is going to think it is ok to do it again. I would suggest trying to spice up the sex life between you 2 first. Do not open the flood gates!!
2006-06-23 02:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by sportyscott_28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very tough situation to be in. If you let her do it, it may lead to other things. If you don't let her do it, she may do it behind your back anyway. How did she find this guy? At least she came out and told you this! I think you need to go with your gut on this one...
2006-06-23 02:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by sundragonjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha, have fun watching some guy bang away at your WIFE!!
Just picture the images of him thrusting, spanking her, sucking her breasts, licking her all over, etc etc.
What the hell are you thinking? Serves you right for getting married so young.
2006-06-23 02:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋