how to recover easily and quickly when you have just boken up your relationship with your husband?

Question

help...

this is the most painful thing that happened into my life...i don't know if i can get through it...

Answer 1

Unfortunately, there is no quick and easy way to recover from something in which your feelings ran deep.

However, there are steps you can take to make it less painful.

Some things you can do are to simply take care of yourself and your emotional and mental well being. That includes things like taking up hobbies that you enjoy, trying new things (which will create new memories for you), maybe taking a short weekend trip (this is discovering a new place on your own without bringing up old memories), allowing yourself to feel sad but knowing that you are perfectly capable of taking care of yourself. And just telling yourself over and over again that you are going to be okay. Don't second guess yourself or feel any guilt over what might have taken place. Guilt is a non productive emotion that stunts emotional growth. Learn discernment from your past relationship and allow new ideas and tools on how to make the next one better.

Answer 2

You will survive and overcome. Obviously he was not worth it, promise yourself you are never going to date outside your own species again. Go and buy yourself a bottle of Champagne and a box of Chocolates, ask yourself, what he could do for you that a box of Chocolates can't? If you come up with an answer advertise in a Lonely Hearts, just to see the weirdos that come out of the wood work, that will convince you that Chocolate is the best solution.

Being serious for a moment, it must be a great struggle for you starting again, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. If you had the strength to break it off you more than have the strength to start again. Don't get into anything stupid, like throwing yourself at the first unattached man that come along. LET THEM CHASE YOU, YOU KNOW YOU ARE WORTH IT.

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear about this, and what you must be going through.
There is no fast fix.
Time helps, being out in the sun, realizing that life goes on ,and it can go on well, go easy on yourself, but mostly, let yourself go through the processs, whatewver it is. Some people end up sleeping with the ex every now and then, and if this happens, then let it happen without getting down on yourself
Matters of the heart and emotions need to take care of themselves. Take it one day at a time. Cry all day if you need to, go out for a drink looking sexy if you need to, do whatever gets you through, girl.
I support you 100%. This is a tough time, and you are in a funk, so nobody can tell you what to do except you, but we can tell you that it is ok.

Answer 4

Wow! There is no easy answer there... I mean, you have to take in consideration how long you were married, why you are breaking up... Healing from a divorce takes a long time and a lot of pain... But you will want to take your time so that next time you are in a relationship, you will be ready for it and you will not have all that baggage for your new partner to deal with... You have to mourn the loss of this relationship, be indulgent with yourself, and learn to let go and accepting...

Answer 5

If you had a mature relationship with him there is no quick and easy recovery. A broken marriage is not like a broken toy that you can replace. You should take time to analyze what went wrong on his part and on yours. That way you won't make the same mistake twice.

Answer 6

You can get through it. It will take awhile. You should seek conceling, or church or whatever resource you can find that can help you through this. Don't try to be so tough. Get help when you need it . This is a traumatic part of your life.

Answer 7

Finding someone else to fill the void always helps.

Answer 8

all the break ups I have heard about went better for the people who got on with their sex life.
obviously that isn't for everyone, but it does help.

Answer 9

try to help someone else and this will help you feel good.

Answer 10

try dating