Just had a fight with my soon to be ex hubby!!! He's a right b**t**d!!
2006-06-23 01:59:46 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jusr separated. He's still at the house in back room until we sell, as can'r afford him to pay rent elswhere. I'll never be completely rid of him casue we have a 2 yr old son. He's not that bad really I'm just really angry with him casue he doesn't love me anymore.
2006-06-23 02:15:29 · update #1
And I know he can't help that either but I don't know how else to feel!
2006-06-23 02:15:52 · update #2
And I did take my marriage voes seriously - (very), which is why we've been at counselling but he just doesn't love me! We could never make that work no matter how hard I tried.
2006-06-23 02:17:12 · update #3
I'm just annoyed because I can't get rid of my hiccups! And I need a job, but no, I don't want to cry.
You sound like a nice person, your soon-to-be-ex probably doesn't deserve you anyway, you should just concentrate on your son, give him as much attention as you can. (I've not been in your situation personally, but two close members of my family have).
Remember you've got friends (even if they are only online virtual of imaginary, like mine!) :)
2006-06-25 23:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Hang on in there. Been there, got the t-shirt and know it's really hard when you're still living together. If he doesn't love you any more and you've tried to work things out, then all you can do is be civil for the sake of your 2 year old. Children pick up on this stuff and can be really affected by it, as they still love you both!
You may never be completely rid of him, but when you're finally apart from each other, you will be able to deal with things more rationally. It takes time, but you'll get there.
Bests
2006-06-23 02:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by durr_babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cry as you need to grieve the painful truth and the failure of your marriage. I'm very sorry to hear that D, you need to vent to feel better, and having him still there is going to be extremely painful.
The good thing is that divorce will put an end to this misery and it will lift the charge off your shoulders.
Don't get mad, get EVEN and take him TO THE CLEANERS baby!!!! get a reputable lawyer, make him pay for your legal fees and put your finances together to prepare for the future.
Be strong, you are not alone. POWER TO YOU!
2006-06-23 03:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i really feel for and u prob feel like utter sh*t - sorry to be straight. try and stay strong and look at the one good thing uve got from him - ur son. he will make u happy just remember that. life's complicated and not everything lasts forever, theres nothing to stop falling in love again and finding that happiness u deserve. in a way its good that is out in the open and he's not lieing to you or having affairs which would cause u more pain. u seem like u need a hug! - spend time with ur friends and appreciate the good u have in ur life. chin up and good luck in the future x it will brighten up no matter how dim it seems right now x
2006-06-23 03:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by roundtree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing about marriage is not to look for the right partner but to be the right partner yourself, when you go into a marriage looking for someone else to make you happy you wind up miserable and feeling let down, start by examining why you married him and what you expected from the marriage what made you settle for a loveless marriage who influenced you, etc. then examine how you look and feel about yourself you will find that in most cases we go into marriages expecting a quick fix to our own emotianal neediness. fix you and you'll be fine let him get on with fixing himself, you never know you might end up back together again.
2006-06-23 02:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by afz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry it willa ll seem like a distant memory soon the best thing you can do is act like you are having a good time without him tell him your going out for a night with the girls then get all dressed up even if you just go and sit in your friends house it will annoy the hell out of him good luck and take care :)
2006-06-23 02:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a very large drink and then cry until you can't cry anymore. You'll feel a little better and the drink will make you sleep!
It's hard when someone leaves you when you still love them and it takes time to get over it and realise that your life will continue, but continue it will and one day you will be very happy again.
x
2006-06-23 11:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by Melly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what an awfull situation for you to be in i do undeerstand what your going through i,m still "lodging" with my hubbie we share bathrooms ecxtra but not bedroom i,m hear purely cause i have no where else to go we rent out home privatley so its not a case of buying each other out and i cant afford to move on so yeah like you i feel like crying but where will it get me? thats what you need to ask yourself if he dont love you then as you said theres nowt you can do to change that fact its time to let go good luck xx
2006-06-23 02:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by moonpup35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let him get to you sweetheart, you can do better than him cant you. Just chalk it up to experience ,smile and remember your a beautiful lady and there is someone waiting for you out there.You will be happy again I promise just give it time, allow yourself time to heal from this hurt your'e going through at the moment. Good luck sweetheart, we are all thinking of you ..xx
2006-06-23 02:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by mams brown eyed gel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not worth it, i know its easy for someone to say dont let it get you down but until you have been through it you dont realise how hard it is. My situation was pretty much the same, as in he was a right b**t**d and that was 5 years ago, believe me when i say it DOES get easier but it will take time.
2006-06-23 03:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by Sharon 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋