I want to runaway - just don't know how?

Question

I am a married man. We had a baby about 1 yr ago. From the time my wife got pregnant and till date we have had at least 100 arguments to the point of me running out of the house and sleeping in my car in a parking lot of a grocery store. We have had sex at most 5 times in past 20 months and don't even feel like doing it anymore.
I feel like running away - but I love my child and don't want him growing up without a family.
Secondly if I run away I better run away with someone - or else what a waste.
Any suggestions for an english speaking country I should run away to other than Canada.

Answer 1

you should learn to face your problem...'coz you enter in that reLaTIONSHIP.....it is normal to have some arguments..........

Answer 2

How about suggesting marriage counseling. Why did you get married if you were not getting along. Just because you have children or a child is not grounds to get married. Whatever you do please don't runaway. If counseling does not work get a separation and custody of your child if you can raise that child better than her. Running away from problems only creates more problems, problems that you will have to eventually face one day later. And if your wife is over 35 she may be going through menopause or having emotional difficulties that women get and go through once they have a baby. So what ever you do get to the bottom of your problem it could be worth while especially if you loved your wife in the beginning and still have some trace of emotion left for her.

Answer 3

I won't encourage to run away ..there is solution..

You would surely miss your child and you have responsibility raising the kid with your wife..

you and your wife could consult a counsellor.
there are more things to learn,, you are not the only man facing this kind of problem or argument between you and your wife..

Faith would keep you together.. seek the LORD and have peace and good lasting relationship. Kids are wonderful gifts from GOD,, and he has purpose for everyone of us.

How you see your kid grow is how you see yourself grow as a parent. You would never be one unless you never act like one.

You are the head of the family, your wife needs you no matter how big is the argument.

Answer 4

what a chicken sh*t husband you are. Get some balls and be a man!

I am sure you don't have any thing to do with fighting. She is always wrong and you are so innocent. I hope she leaves you and takes the baby. How would you feel then?

I won't get points for this...who cares. What is important is that this is a two way street. Don't you think she feels frustrated too?

So get some type of consoling and find out what to do to get over this muck and start loving each other like you did when you asked her to marry you.

Life is tough...and this is part of it. What does not kill you, makes you stronger.

Get some balls...work things out. If not for you...for that child.

Answer 5

You can't run away to another country, you atleast need to be near your child. But you don't have to stay with your wife, especially not if you're unhappy. Get a divorce, still be a father to your son, don't leave the country, take time - find someone new who you'll love and want to wake up next to in the morning. Goodluck with your new life.

Answer 6

I think it is time for you to grow up and smell a few roses here my friend....running away never solved anything....what you need to do is take charge of the situation...obviously your relationship...marriage...whatever you want to cal it....is over before it began...get out of the house and do it now....make sure you take your child with you if that is possible....the abusive situation your wife projects....if in fact she is the instigator....will only get worse...and the child will suffer even more than you...your mate needs help and I suggest you be calm...do not argue with her any more...just get out of that situation and take your baby with you....another country is not the issue...another city or another neighborhood will do quite as well....

Answer 7

never run, your problems are still there. and sometimes it may cause more problems. face what your dealing with it sounds like there is a lack of communication. sit down and have a talk, not a argument. before you start let her know this is a talk not an argument so no yellin from iether of us and this will give both of you a chance to express how you feel and of course both of you have to do some bending and compromising. dont be stuborn, it is your life and hers. now you also have a baby too and like you said that baby would love to have both parents together, plus you know you did love her, i think your mind is just foggy right now.good luck!!

Answer 8

There's no point of staying together if you both are going at it constantly. BUT, you never leave your child. No matter what you stay in that kids life.

And what's with this "...if I run away I better run away with someone - or else what a waste..." business? It sounds as if you're the problem.

Answer 9

Just remember dude, there's always 2 sides to a story. What's your story? Do you help your wife out with your baby? Or do you run away from that situation too? Maybe you two need counseling? And how old are you two? You sound pretty immature to me.

Answer 10

Ok listen I understand what you are saying first let me ask you this do you still love your wife and are you still in love? Do you fee the relationship is worth saving and if so then you and her need to seek marital counseling if not than you need to seperate but remain an active part of your childs life! Why keep hanging on to something that's long but over let go and let God!

Answer 11

Sorry, but no matter how bad of a fight I have with someone I'm not going anywhere. I make my housepayments and I'm staying right where I'm at. They'll leave before I do.