He won't keep a job, he won't keep groceries in the house and I am miserable. I have two daughters, 9 and 5, I love my husband, but I don't want my girls growing up thinking that this is what a marriage is all about.
2006-06-23 00:41:17 · 11 answers · asked by magickcharms2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have talked to him about this and he keeps acting like it is no big deal, then I say get on a plane and move your girls away.
This would prove to him that you are trully fed up and if he wants to make a change..this will be his wake up call.
Good Luck
2006-06-23 00:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by SouthernKNC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have think analytically.
Point 1. He cannot keep a job - is that a requirement for a happy life - answer Yes
Point 2. He does not keep groceries in the house - well related to first questions - so nullified
Point 3. You have daughters for whom you want to set up a good example - well leaving your husband and running away from a problem rather than solving it is not a good example either. Your children will learn from environment in and outside of your home. I
Point 4. You love your husband. Does he know that? Do your daughters know that the fact that you and your husband are together because of love despite of the problems you have. Isn't that a greater lesson.
Despite of all these points - it is important for you to make a living. If your husband has issues with keeping a job - find the reason - seek help - help him seek help - after all you love him and your kids. Still if he does not make an effort to keep a job and run the family like you would like to then you have to assess other alternatives. Moving out is going to be extremely tough on both you and your daughters - remember that.
2006-06-23 08:03:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wont work and cannot keep a job then you need to go out and get the job and let him be the house husband. You may also need to get food stamps and medicaid. Is he willing to go to marriage counseling with you and try to work on the marriage? You get the job and make him take care of the kids and the house. Compromise here and see if he is open to this. If not you may have to leave and get an apartment of your own.
2006-06-23 11:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps suggest to him to start a business for himself..since there`s a reason he cant keep a job..Employers always want to pick on certain folks.Makes them feel important. If you look at it logically..Maybe he is sick of making someone else a bunch of money. There's allot of people out there struggling as well..If he just plain *** lazy..well then that's a issue..Tell him to start knocking on doors and he will be surprised how much work is right there around him..If he doesn't want to get his hands dirty then...maybe you should move on..People do as the have to to make ends meet..with a family and all..Kids to raise..That should be enough to spark a flame under his butt you think...Tell him to Be real..GET IT DONE...OR YOU GO FIND YOU A NEW MAN TO HELP OUT MS....DON'T EXPECT ANYTHING..MAYBE YOU COULD HELP WITH A GAME PLAN WITH HIM...HMMMPEACE N OUT
2006-06-23 09:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by tonez61 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a conversation with your daughters when you meet them and explain them was true love is and its not what you have. Tell them that you would rather live a life not miserably and with a good marriage and that cannot happen with their father. Then they might understand but its a shot.
2006-06-23 07:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a free consultation with a divorce attorney. They are full of information, not just about legalities. He/she will tell you your rights and often have information on ways to help you. They see lots of divorces and see lots of different solutions to problems. BTW, I'm not necessarily saying you should get a divorce, but something tells me your husband isn't willing to be a man and do the right thing here.
2006-06-23 08:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call my family and speak to them about this and tell them everything. I'm sure your family cares and loves you and your daughters enough that they will find a way to get you and your daughter to be with them and help you leave the bum.
2006-06-23 07:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. You'll be so much happier without him. Move to where your family is so that they can support you and help you. Goodluck with your new life. Just remember: YOU CAN DO BETTER.
2006-06-23 08:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try finding a job first, post your resume online and then move
2006-06-23 07:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by RICARDO M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love & effection more than impartant money. satisfaction is very impartant in life. deside your life.
2006-06-23 07:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋