Two yrs ago, I was diagnosed with lupus. I have been extremely fatigued and very ill, at times. I have had both knees replaced and also had sepsis, in the past year. I think I could get more healthy, if I could focus on myself more.
I can never seem to get caught up with all of lifes demands. I stay so stressed out, and just plain worn out. I know what I need.....I need some time out.
However, my 7 yr. old daughter is going through a stage where she is very attached to Mommy. I know in my heart I need to let her spend time with her Dad. But, I am having the hardest time bringing myself to do that.
Please help. Tell me what you think.
Would I be a terrible mother, to let my daughters Dad take care of her, for a while?
2006-06-23 00:00:00 · 4 answers · asked by treefrog 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are ONLY human, and facing more tests and trials than most people do in a lifetime, all at once. You are tired, to the point of exhaustion even, and you need to be able to rest and recuperate some. Unless dad is abusive(which he is not), then you need to let him keep her at least part-time. You ARE NOT, neither will you be, a bad Mother if you let Dad help you with his daughter. I know it's a tough thing to do, but hopefully, it's temporary, and you can get better. Then you can resume your keeping and caring for her . Good Luck!!
2006-06-23 00:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter may not want to leave you because of your illness...
children are very protective of their mothers. At age 7, you should be able to sit down and talk to her about spending more time with her Dad while you heal (don't let on as to how bad you can really get physically...she will feel worse and will not leave). Reassure her that you love her very much but need time to rest and feel like you can't take care of her, and when mommy feels better then life will get back to normal. You are not a terrible mother for wanting to do what's best for your baby...that's the definition of a GOOD mother!
My thoughts and prayers are with you....I hope you recover soon.
2006-06-23 00:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you would be behaving very sensibly. She will still be very attached to you. She's also old enough for you to tell her exactly how it is, how much you love her, how much you miss her when she's not around, but also why you need that time out. And you can call her every day and then cover her with kisses and cuddles when you've had that bit of time out. She will love that.
Look after yourself, pollyanna! Apart from everything else, she wants you around long term. If that means a bit of get well time for you, then it's pretty clear what you have to do. Best of luck.
2006-06-23 00:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by wild_eep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course this isn't going to make you a terrible mother, stop with that already. You have health problems that you have no control over. You didn't ask for any of this to happen and you are a great mother. You want the best for your child and it's not like you're wanting her to go live with strangers. Your health and well being is very important too and it's ok to give yourself a break. Sometimes people gotta do what they gotta do just to survive.
2006-06-23 00:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋