You and partner have been through a rough time caused by families and stuff nothing to do with the relationship itself - anyway your partner is still going through a bit of an issue with his father which is upsetting for him. He has withdrawn from the relationship and is very much into himself with very little communication. You then tell him that you are and have always been there for him but you just want him back to enjoy the relationship and he doesnt say much but says that he's happy and just being himself. What do you do when you know that its not right and although you love him you feel like running but dont wanna be without him coz you know he's just having a bad time and sure it'll get better. I am so upset and cannot take anymore - I feel like i'm banging my head against a wall. Help??
2006-06-22 23:53:40 · 10 answers · asked by Sasha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its easy for me to say talk to him, when he wont listen, and if he wont listen, theres not much else you can do, believe me, i have been in this situation, if you love him like you say you do, then please stick by him, he cant be like this for the rest of his life, can he? and when he has pulled through, he will then realise how much you do love and and how you were trying to help, and he will thank you for sticking by him, dont run out on him, when he needs you most, this will only make matters worse for him, just stick by him, time is a great healer, trust me. good luck!
2006-06-22 23:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by glittershelly 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1) Stop banging your head against the wall... That hurts!!! ;)
2) Tell him that you are very unhappy, and tell him that you need to take a break from the relationship, in order for things to work out...
3) Take some time to assess your place in the relationship...
4) Decide if it is worth getting back into it, or starting a-fresh...
Constantly dealing with someone who won't seek outside help to deal with parental issues is doomed to withdraw and be all doom and gloom... You don't need that, especially when he doesn't seem to want you to help either...
2006-06-23 07:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a downer, been there. You need to be firm, don't molly-coddle him. Get to a doc if you can, tell him its affecing you badly, but if he's really down that will make him feel worse.
I think I would make the doc appointment for him and make him go. Good luck, and look after yourself- perhaps you do need o get away for a little bit?? Go and visit some friends? Stay somewhere else for a while?? Go for a break with him?
2006-06-23 07:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by zara c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I think you should just leave him to talk about it in his own good time, he will when he is ready but not until then. He needs to sort things out in his own mind before he starts talking about it. You can help him by just being there when he opens up, but in the meantime try and change his direction of thought with something else that you know he likes to do. The thing you shouldnt do is keep raising question and asking him about it, leave him to it, he needs time to think.
2006-06-23 07:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by bevsthe1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited 10years for my ex to sort out his past and relastionship with his Father,in the meantime I got a very sore mis-shaped head where i banged it so often!!!
We have 2 kids together and guess what I'm now single, have moved on with my life and I'm enjoying it. Good luck to you girl, I pray you will succeed where I failed.
2006-06-23 07:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetcakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a very MILD case of depression. Encourage him to talk and if he won't then just be around. It's the little things that make a big difference.
2006-06-23 06:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by Susan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my hubby was like this when we first got together. I just stuck by him and he talked it through with me eventually. Three years later! All I did was show him I was here and waited patiently. He will talk when he's ready.
2006-06-23 09:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by wolfstorm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient and let him resolve his family issue...if he can't shake it, maybe you could suggest some counselling that he could talk it out at...good luck
2006-06-23 06:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him professional help,counselling.
2006-06-23 08:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by Bob Mukonka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk and you have to listen, And so does he
2006-06-23 06:57:48 · answer #10 · answered by polockpete40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋