I live with him because I don't wan't to separate my child from his father...
2006-06-22 23:21:51 · 21 answers · asked by anapiubella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get rid of him your kid will understand
2006-06-22 23:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by nicegirl187smile 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That will depend on whether you can be independent enough to be a single mother. You sounded like you have to depend on him rather than "you do not want your child to be separated from his father."
In the first place why are you unhappy? Sort that unhappiness first.......then sort out the happiness. Between a husband and wife, there are always 2 sides of a coin. Each one of you, will have your own sides of the story. If you do not love him, then having the child as an excuse of not having a father will not be valid because abortion is common nowadays.
I believe you are having some kind of depression, seek a doctor for advise as you sounded like you are having some kind of premature post-natal blues.
My suggestion is speak to your husband about this, tell him you are not happy and see if he can change to make things that are happy for you.
2006-06-23 00:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by simple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its two things...
You may end the marriage coz you are unhappy and don't be afraid for your child not to have his dad by his side. While your kid is growing up, he/she can also spend time with his dad for some arrangements.
OR
Do something to make the marriage work well, for you, your husband and the baby. Happiness can be a choice and you can make your own hapiness. Be sweet, talk, do things together, learn each others interest and eventually a higher level of relationship will start to develop.For some people, having a kid is what makes their relationship and what binds the couple better.
Hope everything goes well..Having a family in itself is a blessing so do something to make it work.
2006-06-22 23:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by karylle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to correct the bits about your marriage that make you feel this way or Make a fresh start children are not daft they will pick up on your unhappiness. Yes it won't be easy but life never is at least it will be a lesson in the future. Plus if you end this mutual and on good terms the relationship your child has with its dad will be just as good!
2006-06-23 00:31:04 · answer #4 · answered by sandra+3... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left my partner having just had a baby (she was 4 mths old) - he was not treating me right and it hurt. The pain of making that decision is not something I would wish on anyone but you cannot stay in a negative relationship as it will have an adverse effect on the child at some point. I am single, happy, my child is gorgeous and emotionally stable and I feel empowered having made what was probably the hardest decision in my life so far, but also the right one for me.
2006-06-22 23:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by Happyface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get a divorce but live close enough for the child to see his father. There are ways that you can get through this. If you are unhappy you should not stay. It is not healthy for you.
2006-06-22 23:31:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot sacrifice your life and happiness for that reason alone.
If your child is still young you have to think about yourself.
Millions of parents are seperated from each other and get on just fine.
As long as you and your husband agree terms of access for the child you will be ok.
But don't leave the husband and take the child without giving him any access to him/her. That would be wrong.
My mum and dad are seperated but I still see them both and I still love them both equally, even though they both have different partners now.
yOU ONLY GET ONE CHANCE AT LIFE AND YOU CAN'T LET THIS RUIN YOUR HAPPINESS.
You must leave him and get on with being happy!!!!
Good Luck....
2006-06-22 23:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by rockin mermaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself first for once and think of the consequences. Why would you waste your life being unhappy? Your child will be fine if it is brought up well in a single family home.
2006-06-22 23:26:22 · answer #8 · answered by smart_babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Your child is better off coming from a broken home than living with one. If you're unhappy your child will know.
2006-06-22 23:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should consider marriage therapy and if that doesn't work out then perhaps you should split up. Children aren't stupid they pick up on vibes and a bad atmosphere is detrimental for their health. Its not always best to stay together for the sake of the child, your partner will always have visitation rights.
2006-06-22 23:26:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetcakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter about your husband you and your child can be happy seperate from your husband. there is no way you can stay together if you are unhappy. you only live once!!
2006-06-22 23:25:12 · answer #11 · answered by Chris M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋