My partner will be moving in with my two small children and I. He has a young son of his own who lives with his ex. How can we make it work? My worry is that he is too used to single life now , and although he loves kids and says he has no problem with me having kids, when the reality of life with two young kids hits home he may change his mind. What can I do to help things run smoothly?
2006-06-22 23:04:38 · 9 answers · asked by janey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm assuming that he already knows you and your children, and is totally comfortable with your little ones. If he wasn't, he would have made the decision not to do this. The only thing that would worry me is if you pressured him into moving in...you know...lots of comments such as "wouldn't it be great...?"
If he is doing this because he wants to, there shouldn't be any problem. Most men get tired of the single life anyways after a while. Kind of depends on ages too, but you all should be fine. And if he decides he wants to move out, don't make him feel like a bad person for it. Give him some space, and see what happens. Men love to feel like they are in control, when they really are not!!
2006-06-22 23:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by powhound 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, you may want to think in lil extremes if you guys really wann abe together such as putting one of the kids is a boarding school etc Well, sure that is an extreme case, but then on a reality check, you may wanna ask you guy to move in and see if really is OK for you to be together with the kids. You dont really want to get into a situation where you send some time, memorable time together and then it gets uncomfortable and things take a turn in life!
Cheers!
2006-06-23 06:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by *Darling*Detective* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a loving mother and woman and you have asked a very good question. The adventure in front of you both, as a joint task, is to form a successful step family.
There are some good support organisations to help with this.
Try the link below and see if it helps you.
Peter
2006-06-23 06:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by Peter H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you can do is to try and make your children like him. You have to let thing take there course and work themselves out. A word of advise...you be the one to discipline the kids, not him !!!!
2006-06-23 06:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll take him some time to get use to it, so don't worry. In the meantime treat him like he's part of the family and not some stranger.
2006-06-23 06:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by James B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just always remember that symbiotic relationship is important in a relation..if both of u really love each other then he must accept everything about you..no but and no if......
2006-06-23 06:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by Buddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and tlk to him about it sincerly. make sure he knows what he is gettin into
2006-06-23 06:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by Myke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put all faith and trust in god
2006-06-23 06:07:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
great sex!!
2006-06-23 06:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋